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creative_writerSenior Contributor
I have been struggling a lot lately with suicidal thoughts. It’s become a daily occurrence and it’s been really overwhelming to cope. I am safe right but having to fight this is very exhausting. I feel so trapped, I am tired of living in pain, fear and shame. I feel like a burden to people and unimportant.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
@tymethank god my parents are not fussy about what nationality I marry. I think maybe it’s also because they come from an area in the world where there has been a lot of migrations. The only requirement is that he is Muslim which is fair enough. Then I have my own requirements which are fussy, because you gotta be. I am even fussy with people I let in my life, because toxic people are not worth the energy.
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tymeModerator
Makes sense @creative_writer . I don't think my parents care about nationality as much...but grandparents and great grandparents certainly do!
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
I actually packed up and left when they were overseas @creative_writer - they came back and I was gone....
I don't promote this though. But that was how I managed. Do I regret it? No, because it's made me who I am today.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Yeah. It's hard to say @creative_writer whether you would be more or less sick when living/not living with parents.
That was my way of 'getting out'. I'd been too long under them, that I really needed to 'find myself' without interference. Once again, that's what worked for me. It does not mean your path will be the same.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Most definitely @creative_writer - please don't feel I'm telling you to move out at all. Sometimes I don't make myself very clear. Please forgive me 🙂
And yes, I know you love your parents and they love you. As much as my childhood trauma involves my parents, I also love the very much. I do not blame them for anything at all that has happened.
I'm about to hit the sack. Hope to speak to you either tomorrow or the day after 🙂
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Feeling like I am an disappointment. I have failed people by not being able to handle my own shit. I felt like it was weakness on my part that I had to get support. I felt like I was meant to stay silent to avoid the judging eyes of people. My parents didn’t want me to get help when I was a teen for mental health due to stigma, but I persisted anyways, don’t know if it was the right thing to do, but I feel ashamed of my mental illnesses. I want to crawl under a rock and disappear. Who would care?
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