I can’t cope

Please take care. I'll be hopping off soon too. I'll speak tomorrow. @Captain24

I did go to work today. I was in the water cart again but I asked for a different area. I actually enjoyed it. Until the end of shift. The girl in the other water cart was whinging about me. I know I shouldn’t care but it’s hard. It has ruined my day. I’m trying to focus on the good but it’s not working. Plus she was talking to the biggest bully on crew. I’m sure I will be bullied tomorrow night.

Hey there @Captain24 ,

Firstly, I'm glad you went to work. Good on you.

As for the 'bully', consider them to be one who has issues themselves and therefore need to satisfaction by putting others down... would I be right in saying that?

If you look at the definition of 'bullying', it refers to the constant and intentional hurt imposed by someone. There must be a show of power.

Hence, a one-off wouldn't really be considered as 'bullying', however, continuous intentional hurt IS considered as bullying.

In what way do you think this person feels 'stronger' than you so that they are able to belittle and upset you?

Is there something you can do/say to balance out the power-play?

OR, do you think you are fearing the worst which may not happen?

Words can be so powerful...

And they can really hurt sometimes.

Sorry to hear of it @Captain24

Seems You're sensitive to the thoughts and feelings others have of you, and I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing... Just hurts to recognise and receive such negativity, doesn't it..

Hey @tyme.

I hope you had a better day today.

I guess he must have some deep seated issues but I can’t see them. He has a different target all the time. I’ve bees his target several times. I guess you could say it’s mostly teasing. But it’s done over the two way where everyone hears it. Others then join in. One guy changed crews because of him and his ‘mates’.

Im one of those losers that just isn’t strong enough to stand up to them. I see him as stronger. He has friends, they back him up. He oozes confidence and just thinks he is being funny.

I don’t know how to balance it out. I’m not in the head space to spend 12.5 hrs being ridiculed.

Yes I could be fearing the worst and I hope he has the decency to have some boundaries.

I think it'll be good to let him know over the 2-way that, "I understand you are trying to be funny, but if you have any decency, you'd think about what you are saying before you say it!"

This is probably more important, especially if it is male-dominated. e.g Sexist, in-appropriate remarks are not acceptable. @Captain24

I can try @tyme. He does need to be put back in his box! And so do his mates. I’ll just have to wait and see what happens.

They aren’t overly inappropriate. There is now too many girls on crew.

Maybe I’m just too sensitive and need to harden up! A lot.

Im really tired so I’m off to bed. I hope you enjoy the rest of your night and I’ll catch up with you later in the week.

Thank you

I’m hoping I don’t wake up…

You know what? @Captain24 Sometimes, it just takes ONE person to stand up and others will follow.

Also, I'm not saying to be disrespectful. It's moreso to let him know his comments are not appreciated by you. Trust me, you'll be respected.

Like me, I've never grown up swearing so my ears are really sensitive to swearing. It just doesn't sit right for me. I don't hate people for doing it as I realised it belongs in the vocab of many. However, I have told people to mind their language, and so next time, they say, "Oh, I can't swear". It's not that I'm telling them not to swear, it's moreso to let them know that I'm sensitive to it.

We are all different. What one person appreciates, is not what others appreciate. As part of working as a team, it's perfectly okay to share what works and doesn't work - respectfully, and not out of rage.

You CAN do it! @Captain24