@Captain24 wrote:
I just kept trying to do the things that were slowly lifting and not giving up on them. There’s more changes to make but it all takes time and I have to make these ones natural first.
@Captain24 yesssss amazing! I was taught this theory of learning once that I've found helpful to remind myself of if things get frustrating with these kind of skills as we go along the journey. I may have shared it before, can't remember 😅
But it goes like this:
1. Unconscious Incompetence (We don't know there's something to learn)
2. Conscious Incompetence (We're aware we can improve or learn something)
3. Conscious Competence (We need to actively think about the skill, but we're getting better at it)
4. Unconscious Competence (We don't even need to think about it anymore, the skill has become automatic through repetition).
So if you're finding the skills seem to work, but you still gotta remind yourself to keep practicing, then you're at stage 3. You're on your way to stage 4 when they feel natural, easy, and you use them more often than not 😊
I think for a lot of people, myself included, the intrusive thoughts may never truly go away entirely. But they get less frequent, and when you get to the stage where you are also automatically able to counter them, they're no longer distressing, they don't take up heaps of energy, they no longer have the power to send us into a spiral. I know I still get some not so nice thoughts, like 'I'm so useless' - however I'm at the 4th stage and can automatically counter it with something like 'Okay that's harsh, I'm not useless I just made a mistake - and I can't fix that mistake if I get stuck in shame.' That's what I imagine the purpose of the 'thanks brain' skill is - to get to a point where you aren't berating yourself for still having the occasional nasty intrusive thought!
That's a good end goal to have though I think, to be managing day to day without those thoughts taking over 😊
And thanks for the appreciation, it's been a privilege to watch you grow and bloom along the way 💜
Goes to show how important it is to find the right supports hey!! You'll get there, keep applying yourself and maintain hope in this future being possible. As cheesy as it sounds, positive thinking really is powerful 😉
I reckon we might be talking about the same salad rolls haha Banh Mi is Vietnamese!! They're sooooo good.
Hahaha so the bags went for an excursion to the car, only to go right back into the spare room! I feel you, but I had stuff rolling around the boot annoying me for like a month!!
I ended up taking some stuff into an op shop recently, which came with the bonus of being able to peruse said op shop, so that was kind of a nice motivator! Though maybe it defeats the purpose to drop off a carload only to bring more stuff back? 😅😝
