I can’t cope

Hello and hugs @Struggling101 , one step at a time my friend xxx

Hello @Captain24 , @Faith-and-Hope , @creative_writer , @maddison

Pixie at her happy place! @tyme @Jynx @Former-Member @Bow

It’s great being able to walk along the beach everyday. But I’m really not coping with the company.

Pixie ❤️

Yep @Captain24, you did think that this might be where you’d struggle.

What has been happening? Have you been able to take some time out for you and Pixie when you need it?

xx

Every time I try they make their plans to fit with mine. @Former-Member.

Today they wanted to go to the pet shop. I said ok you go and I’ll walk the headland with Pix. They didn’t go to the pet shop!

There is so so many little petty things that ad up and show me how worthless I am and how much I really don’t matter. It’s so hard.

Yeah that can be very frustrating and also reduce your feelings of respect. I am not sure of your family dynamic at all, is it something you could talk to them about? Could you ask for some time on your own when you need it? It is ok if not!! Like I said I don't know the dynamics and families all work very differently. Is being on the forums an escape for you?? I hope so!

What else have you been doing on your holiday? @Captain24

It’s a basic story. @Former-Member Mum and dad have been married for 49yrs. As long as I can remember mum has always put dad down. It is that bad that it is DV emotionally and verbally. So that leads to us being abused. The cause of most of my trauma. Mum is a narcissist and thinks everything is ok.

I am 45 with a good job and paying off my own home. It should be something to be proud of. However it’s not good enough and I’m still treated as a child. I’m reliving the trauma being stuck with them. If I was to ask for alone time it’d be ‘what for’.

They have no idea of my MI and there is no way I could tell them for the ridicule I’d get.

I don’t think I’ve explained it very well but it is just a toxic situation.

Oh, I understand! I have a mother very similar. Very little understanding and always a power struggle between parent and child, where they remain dominant, and can’t understand how your needs might differ from theirs. And then, if you question their response, there must be something wrong with you for not understanding or being silly? Am I in the ballpark?

Sometimes, it is just easier to suffer in silence because the reaction can sometimes make us feel worse.

I know it’s hard to feel proud in a dynamic like that, but you should feel proud. What you have achieved is more than all 40-50 year-olds I know.

@Captain24

That’s sounds about right @Former-Member.

I just am not coping with the toxicity at the moment. I know I’m being extra sensitive but my MH isn’t in the place to be able to accept it.