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Trying makes it worse

Trying makes it worse

Hi,

I'm EternalFlower and I've been feeling completely overwhelmed, sad, and pessimistic.

I've tried and been a responsible patient and person, reaching out to various services when I started feeling scarily anxious and suicidal, 2 years back..

My Dr is new, a young guy who regularly admits he's inexperienced, and aside from some good jokes, he actually does very little

I notice how easy it is to blame myself that I don't feel better, a total shame spiral, but I wander if my treatments just are bad....

I wanted to chat and hear anyone and hope I can use this space to help not feel so alone.

Thanks xxx EternalFlower

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@Appleblossom @Sophia1 @TAB @Shaz51 @Jynx @Zoe7 @Eden1919

How are you doing?

I am doing so much better 🙂 i have such a good Dr now.
I'm really grateful I found the right person to help me.

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Very Good @EternalFlower nice to hear that. Same old same old here

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Good to see you. Glad to hear it @EternalFlower

Is it the same one, improving his relationship, or a new one? Gp or pdoc?

🌷🪷🪻

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@TAB hows your home these days? It must look so good.

@Appleblossom I'm working with a new psych 🙂

The old one is still around, but this one is for day programs and admissions. I am going to do some DBT 🙂

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not sure when would have mentioned my house last ?

anyway.. 2nd wave of 'stuff'ages ago

vintage kitchen unit/dresser on cupboards, recliner lounge

other stuff ,like heater and extra a/c yonks ago. was only thinking other day I sat on an esky in kitchen for months,table was a box. got bed, kitchen table,butcher block thingo,wmach,300+ litre fridge @EternalFlower still lots things not done yet

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where did you get all this @TAB the vintage dresser souonds lovely

a real home 🙂

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oh and wood heater and slate hearth that is like 1800x1800 x 40mm weighs like 200kg lol

plus kitchen table and chairs

  • got bed delivered from IKEA
  • went to look at 2nd hand chest of drawers on fb, they put it on ute and followed by home
  • friend left beach chairs which are going to get thrown
  • I also got couple plastic chairs and adjustable tray thing to go over my lap fm kmart
  • tv and white goods delivered fm Harvey Norman like 30ks away
  • I picked up slate w borrowed trailer from Willunga, got it out of trailer myself somehow
  • had huge hassle w heater. the one I wanted had dift price in dift areas ,so if bought in Melbourne say was like $600 cheaper and you are supposed to go to nearest place to buy. rang them,no stock plus wont install. so I got one and flue kit from place couple hours away for cheap and brought it home myself
  • then first installer BS'd me then refused to install it as he was too scared; said it wasnt up to code(wrong)
  • eventually got another installer ,but had like 6 months wait
  • kitchen table and chairs I picked up from 90ks away
  • coffee table and tv and coffee table same, from 30ks away
  • and someone dropped lounge off but I had to unload it by myself lol

@EternalFlower and I got ceiling insulated as it wasnt, and got another split system for bedroom. and got ceiling fans in all(like 4) rooms lol well its 4 rms,and bathroom, laundry and toilet.Good size for 1 person,but room for a guest . Still have long list of things wanted to do, but moneyis running out. It's cosy.😊

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@EternalFlower I am really glad you have some one doing the work who feels a better fit. DBT has good aspects.

@TAB sounds like you are doing a great job of making a classy home. Gezellig…. Is the Dutch word that comes to mind…

going to watch a show with my son and have dinner

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@Appleblossom what tv do u watch?

i saw this picture of a girl bedroom on substack - the idea being that feminine bedrooms are all trinkets and cute things layered on top of each other with no holding back - and why that stops when people becoe adults or live with a male or any person who maybe doesn't like it as much.

looks fun and nostalgic

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Oh @EternalFlower I am not a big tv watcher. I studied novel and film at uni, and just too fussy, now, to be bothered with a lot of stuff floating around. I lean more SBS and ABC, like a bit of scandi noir, the odd Brit sitcom, very rarely anything Hollywood, would prefer more Nollywood, ie recent film out of Nigeria. Love Australian cinema, it helps us recover from a lot of the cultural cringe we endured back in…the day. I only watch every few months, except when my son wants to watch. He has fabulous taste, researches well, and knows my taste. Lately we are watching I, Claudius. Closest American style I liked -Hidden Figures. Loved Robbie Hood… cos I could relate to a lot of the issues.

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