Relief from suffering

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No don't BE DOWN ON YOURSELF. Be proud of ANGER. Anger is an emotion.

When I was numb when I broke with the PTSD. It was NUMB, I was IN no where land. And I pulled myself out because one thought came into my head JUST one thought so I set about to do an action - I pretended strong. THEN IN pretending ONE DAY I got angry..

Angry WAS an EMOTON. I was not capable of complex thought tgen so it mulled around in my head for some tine until I dissected itz it IS all in the language. It was E MOTION. It meant I WAS in motion. That meant I was alive. That meant maybe I was supposed to BE alive.

Do not be "not proud of yourself" OVER anger. It is just a step in your grieving. You MUST GO through all the stages of grief you can not do only one or two or 3.

My mum was an Angel, I swear, and you know what? I went through anger top..
"Why DID YOU LEAVE ME!?? Why? And WHY NOW MUM, why? In the middle of these court cases, your voice a welcome relief. SUCH kind words & of love, and it's GONE? YOU left me? How COULD YOU DO THAT?
Betrayal, ALONENESS; an ORPHAN, ( I have 2 sisters & a dad BUT no one consoled me. They wallowed in their grief & tarred me like shit.. Etc.

Yeah ANGER IS a base emotion you might call it NEGATIVE, but no emotion IS negative. No EMITION is negative.

EVEN depression. It is a state of quiet withdrawal from others. The soul if split in many pieces. It is YOUR SOUL, your higher self that KNOWS better. But you are pulled left & right and every bastard HAS an opinion.

We too often are so distracted by WHITE NOISE vying for our attention, the news, TV & sport and the NEED to look like Barbie.

The body's natural state is homeostatis. It's level, smooth NO ups nor downs ITS BALANCED.'
Can you give yourself permission to BE ANGRY? Honour the fact that you have anger inside. Sit quietly NO TV or other electronic stuff going in the room? M

You are allowed to talk to thr loved one and tell him/her that you love them, but right now you are so GOD DAMN ANGRY AT THEM
FOR LEAVING YOU, or for slipping. Or on that train ride and died away from home or it may be they were abusive it stole your childhood? I don't know which.

It's SO OKAY TO BE HUMAN & show human emotions.

When I said BE VOLNERABLE, I meant BE totally naked and RAW with yourself. That's AUTHENTICITY. Be honest.

Find the part in your body where the anger is. Where is it? Is it in your tummy or chest or head? FEEL IT. Let your feelings EXPRESS anger, And cry if you wish. I cried buckets of tears. I kept crying. It's vulnerable because the "fashion" or that STIFF UPPER LIP of British peoples DEMANDS we hold it within. AND I pray PLEASE no mother IN her 40's or 50's HAS EVER TOLD A MALE CHILD not to cry. "Men don't cry. Be brave BE A MAN"??

I hope NOT. For those should BE burned at a stake.

We ARE humans and IF we are not allowed to cry openly? Then we are turning COLD as a NARCISSITIC SOCIOPATH.

When you cry you let go of thr pain of feeling ANGER. Anger isn't the enemy. I think once you CRY IT ALL OUT you will find underneath is HURT

We default to anger because it's much more "cool" or "mucho" or waft ever,??

No ANGER is either you are hurt by an action and usually it's YOUSEIF you see ANGRY ABOUT because you didn't fix it sooner

So THIS IS JUST ANOTHER LEARNING LESSON. It's what we call EXPERIENCE.

So ASK YOURSELF what it this teaching me. We get so stuck in the perception that ANGER is negative .. But forget it came along to teach us a valuable lesson.

The lesson ONLY IS TAUGHT if you ask YOUSELF what is it teaching mE.

The ANSERS aren't outside OF you LOOK WITHIN.

All thr answeres are yours. For IF YOU SAW something IS WRONG, or just NOT right. THEN YOU MUST know the answer.

Simple. SEE?

It's EASY,

and remember ONCE you learn THIS LESSON? The teacher IS NOT GONNA have to teach it to you again IS SHE?

Nope. You move UP one class.