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@Fingerlimei cannot type well because i have shakey hands due to medication. mental illness has hit my family hard. i was a carer for many years and then developed schizoaffective disorder myself. my middle son has autism, schizophrenia, a mild intellectual delay and epilepsy. my daughter has epilepsy, depression chronic and autism high functioning some would say aspergers. my eldest son has depression.

i have been here since 2017 it is a wonderful forum site with a great bunch of people. Talk soon greenpea

Hi 👋🏼 @Fingerlime what do you enjoy?
Do you play a musical instrument 🥁 ?

Do you garden? Like books 📚?

Do you have pets? If so we are all waiting for your pet photos.

Do you like sport?

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@Faith-and-Hope 💞

Hi, I am here to try and navigate my way through loneliness and mild depression. My life is very different to what it used to be and I really struggle with that sometimes. Loss of parents, a seperation, no longer connecting with siblings.

I have a small handful of friends and a loving daughter, a good job and I am involved in volunteering work which all helps in different ways, but nothing seems to ease my underlying feelings of sadness. My health is pretty good for my age so no issues there. Hoping to connect with people in similar situations and hoping I can help others too!

Hey @Salus_0891 ,

Great to hear from you here.

I'm glad to hear you are seeking support and connection now whilst the depression is mild. For many, they don't reach out for support until their depression has meant they have stopped a lot of things they love doing.

Thank you for sharing a little about yourself. I hear loneliness can be really hard at the best of times, but I can see you have a circle of friends you connect with.

Do you have social groups in your area that perhaps the council run which you can join?

I lived with depression for many many years, and I feel like I stopped living, and am only not starting to 'live' again.

I hope you feel supported and connected here on the forums 🙂

So lovely to have you with us.

Hi @Salus_0891 and welcome to the forums 👋

I suffer from what is called situational depression at times, and loneliness, for similar reasons to yourself. Separation led to a very ugly prolonged divorce in my case, and nothing is as it used to be, but I am climbing back out of the crater it left in my life, and creating new pathways, new opportunities. It still sucks that I went through that, and feeling those feelings is important to recovery and healing.

There are plenty of forumites ready, willing and able to walk along with you in your new journey. You have company on the road here.

Thank you @Faith-and-Hope Yes, mine is situational too. I am trying really hard to accept my new life because generally it is quite good, I just don't see that sometimes. I focus on what I haven't got instead of what I have. I am still very much feeling the loss of my Mum too.

I'm glad you are creating new opportunities for yourself. I imagine an ugly divorce would have had a huge impact on you (my seperation was amicable but sad). And true, as hard as it is sometimes it's important to "feel the feels" Thanks for replying, take care.

💐💕 @Salus_0891 ….. lost my Mum a while back too. I miss her most days, but very grateful for the beautiful person she was, and the strength she brewed in me ….. I am a phoenix and know how to rise from ashes 🙏🌷🔥🪶 I am also a creative, and art is healing.

Be well 🌻

Hello everyone,

I'm Nik_Nak. I am grateful to have found this site and hope it will help me on my road recovery. If you have any tips on how to navigate the forum please let me know. It is very overwhelming, and even right now, feel like running away.

I am 27 years old and a single mother to two children who are 10 and 8 years old. I am currently starting court proceedings with their father due to him removing them from my care and changing their schools. Since being apart from my one and only true loves, my children, I have become a complete manic mess. am now to get myself back to. I started using drugs as a coping. I hate my house as home isn't home anymore; the silence is deafening.

I have endured a couple of violent relationships due to poor, choice of person, and substance abuse. I managed to reduce my alcohol consumption on my own with the help of friends. I am currently undergoing an assessment for BPD. The reason for this is that in 2015, my sister tragically took her own life in hospital under the Mental Health Act. Poor communication led to her taking life, and it was found later in the court inquest she had suffered from BPD. After learning of this, I did my own research and found many similarities.

Overall, being a mother is my life. Having gone from child to mother so fast, I don't actually have a self-identity. My childhood and teen years were stripped from me at a age, and the father of my children—well, let's just say we were 14 years old and 22 years old when the relationship started in 2012.

i am looking for support in getting clean and staying clean, feeling less alone in the world, getting my children back home to me and more importantly improving my mental health.

Hello and welcome @Nik_Nak

Firstly, good on you for taking this step and sharing parts of your story here. I know forums can be a bit overwhelming when you first join. I'd recommend checking out this thread to get you started:

How To - SANE Forums

And then if you have more questions there's this one too: Start Here: Forums How-To - SANE Forums

With that out of the way I wanted to acknowledge just how much you've been through. I can't imagine how hard it would be to currently be separated from your children, but your strength and determination to be reunited with them really shines through this post.

It sounds as though, despite this being an extremely difficult time, you are starting to take some really good steps in the right direction. I hope that this forum can be a source of connection and support for you throughout this.

We're here for you

Hi and welcome to the forums @Nik_Nak.

So sorry to hear what you have been going through, but you brave heart is showing. There is a lot of self-awareness in what you have written.

Joining us here is a massive self-care step, good job 👍 . You have friends on the road here. We are all on the forums for different reasons, but life has been hard on us all. Even with different journeys the empathy is huge, and the appreciation for mental health diversity and support is awesome.

I can see that @Ru-bee has provided you with some links to help navigate the forums. Yell out if / when you need help.

F&H 🌷