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Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi SANE Community,

This fortnight, we invite you to join our Topic Tuesday on supporting loved ones living with BPD with peer support worker @tyme !

There are many in our community actively seeking support around caring for loved ones living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), often feeling isolated and lost in this process. BPD is a complex mental health issue that can be very distressing for the person and for the friends, family and carers close to them- leading to strained relationships and burn out.

It's important that we can find others with shared experiences so that we don’t feel so alone as we care for our loved ones. This Topic Tuesday will be a space to come together and ask any questions we may have, as well as discuss our experiences and strategies for self care.

Join us so that we can build connections and feel more empowered in our roles.

Please join the discussion here on Tuesday the 25th of January 2022 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

Want to know what time this event starts in your time zone? Check out the picture below:

Want to receive a reminder on the night? Hit the 'Support' button below and we will tag you 30 minutes before the event starts.

New to the forums or want to get involved in this discussion? Check out the How To Guide for Topic Tuesdays.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

can definitely relate to what you're saying @tyme

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Jillaroo O feel for you in your situation.

My wife (aka darling) didn't bond with our youngest until he was 3+ yo. It is tough.

To the point she was scared to be alone with him. He is now very much a mummy's boy. So with some gentle preserving things can change.

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi @Shaz51 and @Jillaroo , thanks for joining us tonight! 💛

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StuFSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Thanks for the tag @cloudcore , but not really relevant to me. Have a great discussion!

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

No worries @StuF , have a good evening! 😊

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Diagnosis really can be a light bulb moment @PTG, and it sounds like it has been very important part of the journey for you and your family. Learning and openness to reaching out in new spaces is such a courageous and important step! How have you been finding therapy so far? Have there been any resources in your learnings that you have found helpful?

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Daisydreamer I'm a bit lagging in my response here.

What support do I have around me now.

1. My mum, this was really hard to begin with as it seems wrong on so many levels to discuss 'problems ' concerning my wife to my mum.

2. I catch up with a friend from church as a form of accountability partner. We share also similar challenges with children.

3. I just started in a new job and my supervisor seems to be most understanding.

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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi @Jillaroo ,

Thanks you for posting. I can see how much work you are putting into supporting this young mum. It certainly can be so frustrating, especially when children are involved.

It is good that this young mum IS actually receiving support at this time. Unfortunately, BPD is a SLOW moving illness. It takes a long time to develop and a lengthy time to be brought back to a functional baseline.

In that time, it is important that the child/ren receives support to manage their own struggles and challenges - perhaps through school counsellors?

As for the young mum, an important part of recovery is empowering her to make decisions - what is it that she wants for herself and her child/ren long term? It is only then that she can actively work towards bettering herself and her family.

Any thoughts @Jillaroo ?

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

i am so happy you have great support @Determined

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FarmboyCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

My darling wife has undiagnosed BPD, the symptoms include: 1. Self sabotaging behaviour 2. No filter on what she says 3. Very angry 4. Struggles with her identity and place in community 5. Threatening behaviour towards others, often extremely violent and vicious threats, usually directed at me (her carer) 6. Wild mood swings she can write me the most beautiful. love letters one day and is then threatening me with violence the next. 7. Tumultuous relationships with other family members 8. Swings from idolisation one day to extreme loathing the next 9. Risky behaviour and impulsivity It has brought our 32year relationship to its knees, however I love her so much I refuse to give up on her and forgive her everything 1000 times multiplied by 1000 times
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