Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Question 1: What are some of the experiences for people living with BPD?

yeah i suppose, i just don't look at myself like that

but i must admit i am a caring wife, mum and definitely a loving grandmother

i do have lots of empathy towards others

i think when i am angry at certain things i do get angry with me having BPD; maybe i haven't really accepted that i have BPD

@tyme

Hi @PTG , welcome to the forums and thank you for joining us tonight 😊

I too, didn't understand or know what BPD was or looked like for many years. It's a shame that there isn't greater visibility or acceptance of this diagnosis. I'm wondering what finding out about BPD meant for you?

In all that time, I think I was bumbling along in the dark. Diagnosis was a light bulb moment. Now I can join groups like this. Next is a family connections course. And lots of learning. I'm seeing a therapist. Started talking about what's been happening with my kids.. come a long way from bumbling in the dark

gee @Daisydreamer where do i start!!

1. fits of anger
2. mixture of emotions in seconds
3. my emotions stay with me for days
4. impulsivity in buying online
5. thoughts of suicide
6. self harm by stopping my meds (at times)
7. sometimes not knowing my boundary
8. seeking assistance or assurance
9. needing reasurrance to not be abandoned

Hello @Daisydreamer , @cloudcore , @tyme

I am a carer of my husband who has MI

But I am here to helps other and learn more

@cloudcore what have I done to care for myself.... not a lot, there in lies much of the problem).

I returned to study as a means of giving me something to to in the absence of full time work. Got good grades but retained very little by the end.

Had a mid life crisis a couple years ago and got a motocycle lol.

Now Darling and I cycle together.

90+ km planned for tomorrow 😎

Hi, first time posting on a forum so please bear with me.

I am a family member who is assisting a young mum who is receiving treatment for BPD. It is so difficult to watch the young child (17 months) get frustrated trying to have her needs met and seek interaction from her mum when her mum just doest seem to have a connection with her daughter.

The young mum is still dealing with the diagnosis and has ceased her medication as her " lack of sex drive" seems .more important to her than caring for herself or daughter..

We have tried simple routines modelling, support by way of supervision and guidance but feel like we are hitting a dead end. Any guidance or suggestions would be welcomed

@BlueBay @Determined @PTG , this may be of interest to you:

As a carer for someone with BPD, have you ever heard your loved one say?

• “I hate you!”
• “Why did you leave me?”
• “I don’t know who I am.”
• “Self-harm takes the pain away.”
• “I feel so empty and alone.”
• “No one understands.”
• “I can’t live without you.”

For me, I know I have certainly used these statements...regularly.

For someone with BPD, life may look like this:

Yes – life is like a roller coaster for pwBPD – up, down, round and round. Does this roller coaster ride remind you of how you currently feel?

People with BPD often live in a world of emotional instability. They are so passionate and feel so deeply that it HURTS! These emotions are reliant on what is happening in their environment. For example, hearing a triggering word may send a borderline into complete turmoil or rage.