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Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi SANE Community,

This fortnight, we invite you to join our Topic Tuesday on supporting loved ones living with BPD with peer support worker @tyme !

There are many in our community actively seeking support around caring for loved ones living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), often feeling isolated and lost in this process. BPD is a complex mental health issue that can be very distressing for the person and for the friends, family and carers close to them- leading to strained relationships and burn out.

It's important that we can find others with shared experiences so that we don’t feel so alone as we care for our loved ones. This Topic Tuesday will be a space to come together and ask any questions we may have, as well as discuss our experiences and strategies for self care.

Join us so that we can build connections and feel more empowered in our roles.

Please join the discussion here on Tuesday the 25th of January 2022 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

does BPD come with childhood trauma? @cloudcore @tyme @Daisydreamer

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JillarooCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

That is awesome @Determined. So good to hear that your little boy has his mummy and your little family is supporting each other.


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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Determined ,

I can definitely see how hard it was for you for your wife not to bond with your youngest.

BPD seems to affect mostly relationships. I can see it from your darling's side - if she doesn't bond, then she won't get hurt. This is because the pain of getting hurt is so real and so painful, that it is better to avoid attachment in the beginning.

Do you think this relates?

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Determined wow that 90km cycle sounds like such a challenging activity, but it's amazing that you are both able to find shared interests to promote your wellbeings and have fun! Finding things to do with your wife outside your caring responsibilities is a great step for managing burnout 😊

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FarmboyCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

In my wife's case yes, her ex brother in law who is 11 years herseniortried to sexually assault when she 15 while she was sleeping

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

oh @Farmboy you are a sweetheart. I have been married for 36 years and my hubby has stuck by me too. I can relate to some things that your wife does too.

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@BlueBay wrote:

gee @Daisydreamer where do i start!!

  1. fits of anger
  2. mixture of emotions in seconds
  3. my emotions stay with me for days
  4. impulsivity in buying online
  5. thoughts of suicide
  6. self harm by stopping my meds (at times)
  7. sometimes not knowing my boundary
  8. seeking assistance or assurance
  9. needing reasurrance to not be abandoned

@BlueBay thank you so much for sharing the experience of BPD for you I am sure lots of people here posting and reading can relate to recognising some of these experiences in their loved ones lives 🙂

"Emotion in seconds" is something @tyme spoke of too- the way you phrased this Tyme, that the experience of emotion is felt so deeply is so important. Depth of emotion can mean experiencing the world in a deep and unique way, it can come with incredible strengths, but can also mean feeling pain deeply too

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Farmboy , I can see so many parallels in your story.

It has brought our 32year relationship to its knees, however I love her so much I refuse to give up on her and forgive her everything 1000 times multiplied by 1000 times

We have been at this place many times, and I also refuse to give up...

Things I once thought as deal breakers, with help I have been able to get past 😥

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Farmboy i am sorry that happened to your wife when she was 15. I too was sexually abused by 3 different guys when i was 9-12 years old.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Daisydreamer why is that - we (pwBPD) can give so much love and empathy thats really deep, we can so much about others. But then we can feel the pain so deep. It's so painful. I don't understand.

when i say we i mean 'me'

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