HamburgerSenior Contributor
Guilt and Fear
Its sad how people will use any means available to manipulate a situation, for their benefit..pathetic really!
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Guilt and Fear
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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Your right @Appleblossom , my anger was displayed verbally, not in a threatening manner either. Foul language and criticism towards staff. Although not appropriate, I have copped heaps worse than what their "grounds" were. I guess hearing outsiders opinions on my behaviour is hard to accept..especially when others and in particular their friends display same behaviours and then some...victim..maybe..but fair is fair...if you want to be valued then maybe not being partial helps? I obviously have too much time on my hands ro be talking about history..one day I will have different circumstances and whinging etc will have no place ..peace
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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Basically because people have used my past mistakes as excuses as to why things have been happening over the past 20 years..like I said they are quick to point their finger at me but defend others in "same boat".
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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And as stated... they are obviously not proffessionals..else they would not have ejected me out for the sake of a few f words and a comment of a staff member not being professional..due to her taking a client to the tab. Things were ok until I mentioned that..then it was..pack your bags..but I had to wear it because of " my anger" when that is not really how it went down at all..the price we pay!
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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Anyway...yawn....hows things with u mate? Hope your well
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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Footy match is a dream...cant afford to eat..lol..
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
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I am ok @Hamburger
Tort my kid to kik a ball .. but never really had the cash or interest to pay for a game.
There are soup vans that help with sanger and mug of soup ... gotta gradually get finacial s++t together. I was a charity kid but never a charity teen. Took my kid on the soup vans so he could see and help that part of the world.
Have visited acute wards quite a few times throughout my life and been troubled by the manner in which anger was handled. Usually it was re somebody that I had nothing to do with ..I was just a disinterested bystander ... but I usually had no trouble in talking to angry people totally off their head and they would settle ... so i REALLY (MODS THIS IS IMPORTANT) do not understand the rapid escalations in the mhu.
Eg what just happened to the Aboriginal artist and fisherman Wayne Morrison. I thought conflict resolution skills were trotted out by RTOs all over the place ..
Why arent the ward staff taught better skills?
I am not into swearing .. but when I was a teen .. everyone did it .. it is a socio-cultural phenomenon. I really thought Australians did not know any other language .. I read books to learn English ... talking to people didnt help .. lol
I see you like chatting .. hope you get food figured out soon tho.
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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Lol..MHU's are one place I've learnt not to get lippy around...had a shrink frog march me over to the HDU where they gave me a nice dose of accuphase ...could not walk properly for 3 days..let alone mouth off...looking back I think to myself...if only I had these people with me on a night out! Most crowds at the pubs would be on the floor drooling....We dont have much in the way of rehabs in nth qld..while the ones here mean well...they simply dont cut it...wish these groups would understand that its not all about money and what grants u can get off the government...peoples lives are on the line! If u gunna do a job...do it right!
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AloneSenior Contributor
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lol MHU are one place I've learnt to avoid like the plague! I've been lied to & tricked by staff, threatened with seclusion and/or being tied to the bed for wanting a smoke after 8pm (20 years ago when it wasnt so bad to smoke!), "accidentally" locked in my room for half a day (the nurse said she didnt see me lying on my bed), misdiagnosed. If you get upset or frustrated they all crowd around to watch the show. And then there was the psychiatrist who just kept repeating everything I said ...
How are you?
Good.
What do you mean by good?
I'm okay.
What do you mean by I'm okay
I'm fine
What do you mean by I'm fine
.... and on it went until I walked out in disgust.
I have zero faith in mental health "professionals".
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HamburgerSenior Contributor
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Lol....the good thing for me now is I can look back and have a chuckle...at the time I wasnt laughing though. ..balling like a naughty kid in a sandpit!
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KurraSenior Contributor
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Morning @Hamburger
I know all too well what you're saying about HDU and solitary cells! Been in both far too often but sometimes it's necessary.
Professionals can help you heaps. ... but if you don't give them descriptive details to work with. ... well they just have to keep asking questions. Sure it can take some time to open up properly and tell them all the nitty gritty details but once you've done that it can be a very different sort of appointment.
That's what I've found anyway.
Perhaps the next challenge for you is to work out what else you could have said. If you go through what you wrote about the psychiatrist maybe you can work out more detailed answers to the questions.
How about you give it a go.
Have a fabulous day! 🙊🙉🙈
I know all too well what you're saying about HDU and solitary cells! Been in both far too often but sometimes it's necessary.
Professionals can help you heaps. ... but if you don't give them descriptive details to work with. ... well they just have to keep asking questions. Sure it can take some time to open up properly and tell them all the nitty gritty details but once you've done that it can be a very different sort of appointment.
That's what I've found anyway.
Perhaps the next challenge for you is to work out what else you could have said. If you go through what you wrote about the psychiatrist maybe you can work out more detailed answers to the questions.
How about you give it a go.
Have a fabulous day! 🙊🙉🙈
