Hi @Zoe7
I woke up early and I was thinking about you for a long time and wanted to wait until I felt okay about typing on my computer with both hands before I sent you a mesage - I am typing well - so that's good
I have tough dates around now as you do - and I was also thinking about your facing your own class tomorrow and wondering how on earth you would do this. I have done grief- counselling and know everyone is different and all your kids will ask questions - or not - which is harder still.
What do you lean on? - I have my faith - and if I was to get the chance to counsel anyone now I would ask what their's is because that is what we grow up with. Then I though that if it had been left to my mother I might not have had much background to lean on - kids today may not have a religious life at home so that makes it harder for anyone to help them
So - we all know that bad things happen to good people and these kids were in the wrong place at the wrong time and it was an unfortunate and tragic accident. All I could think of to say to children about this - to anyone actually is this
God does not expect us to suffer anything more than we are able and the children who died were taken into his care because they were so badly injured and there is no suffering in Heaven.
This is my honest belief. I really believed that my son and I had reached the end of the road for one of us when I swerved to avoid the collision in heavy traffic that permanently damaged my shoulder - I survived - I was able to go on - my son in his circumstances - couldn't and he has been at peace ever since
These children are at peace - I know it's really a hard thing to accept and to understand - that children can die - my aunt died when my mother was still a child and this was hard for me to accept as normal when I was growing up and these surviving children - all over your state - all over the country will find this hard to accept and understand
I wish so much I could be with you - to touch you and to pass my strength to you - to be with you when you speak to your class tomorrow and even speak for you
I have started to cry myself writing this post - it is a terrible thing to happen and I am here with you in my heart -
Sending all my love, experience and what I have learned
Dec