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seamusunseanSenior Contributor24 Sept 2016, 6:05 am AEST

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Gday im 45 just coming out of a divorce where my children have been systematically taken from me after being a stay at home dad for around seven years. My ex walked out claiming she was living a single life anyway . I kept the kids but started to struggle when she locked me out of our joint account . I was in shock and not copping . Her parents bought her a new house . I was struggling to keep food on the table and pay the bills when i decided maybe it would be best if the kids lived with there mum who had financial backing of her parents . Thats when the lawyer letters started claiming i was mentally unfit to see my children...anyway long story ive basically lost every thing now with a 20,000 debt and still dont get to see my kids ...the courts dont even seem to care about anything i have to say im constantly agreeingto her demands to at least get a supervised visit or phone call....now im giving up feeling like the system agrees with her and im better off out of the picture ...ive started saying goodbyes to friends and family ...my heart constantly aches for my boys ..ive missed so much already ...sick of crying and cant function...last ditch effort.

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espritSenior Contributor30 Oct 2016, 10:01 pm AEDT

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Hey. It suck what your feeling now. I've been there a few times. Black black hole. I know. All I can tell you is I have come out the other side and I'm stronger and more able to manage things now. This will pass I know you just want to not have drama. Your boys will be ok just take care of you. Buggar everyone else pull yourself up and carry on.its s fresh start and you can when your ready choose how you want it to be and look like. The only thing you have control of is yourself. Get healthy don't drink excercise blah blah all those things do help though. Take it easy. Xxx

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KalliadesContributor30 Oct 2016, 10:27 pm AEDT

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Hey mate. I' m certainly no expert, but my advice would be to not to focus on things out of your control, concentrate on what you can do. See your boys as often as you can and every single time you do, tell them that you love them and promise that you will always be there for them. Then keep that promise.
Things will get better for you but I know thats hard to believe right now which is why its important to have a reason to stick around. When I've been at my lowest I tell myself that I dont have to enjoy life, but I will endure it to spare the people who care about me from pain. Its probably not a healthy way to live but it gets me through when the depression makes it seem llike i have no future. Maybe you can do the same by focusing on that promise.

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seamusunseanSenior Contributor31 Oct 2016, 4:47 pm AEDT

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Shes going to get me evicted now ....and as i havnet seen the kids in 8 weeks is going to seek sole custody early or something like that i dont even understand most of it ...hows that i want to see my kids but because i havnt ...what....i give up i really do ...just cant beleive this is allowed to happen...i raised them ive been a good person and citizen ....nothing but broken

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espritSenior Contributor02 Nov 2016, 8:12 pm AEDT

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How you doing

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seamusunseanSenior Contributor03 Nov 2016, 10:58 am AEDT

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Not to bad thanks jar picked up a bit tuesday arvo...pressure from the leader of the opposition threatening eviction and the like...just have to not mind the little big stuff eh..spoke to a bloke over from the mines looking to invest in the area...interesting but not relying on it...would make me giggle if i pulled a rabbit out of the hat before the larger statured person sings lol ...lovely day...will make it as constructive as possible...gotta get my old mindset back...the quarry face stands longer than the pick...hoo roo (really appreciate your concern)

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seamusunseanSenior Contributor03 Nov 2016, 11:01 am AEDT

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The angry bea...ver is a pet name and cartoon character...

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seamusunseanSenior Contributor07 Nov 2016, 10:07 pm AEDT

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Threated with court ordered eviction now ...amazing what people can do to each other if they have money....telling me i have my kidz that love me doesnt help....was hoping to see some sort of patern here but cant how about you guys...angry man is back and we all know who visits next ...@#%ckin sick of it!

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor07 Nov 2016, 10:20 pm AEDT

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Having a few good conversations can really make my day.

What kind of home base can you set up @seamusunsean?

Can you use the energy of anger to get moving and organised? It hard not to let it overcome us, but you need somewhere to hang your hat.

I appreciated your dry humour.

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seamusunseanSenior Contributor07 Nov 2016, 10:40 pm AEDT

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Ha yeah harness it channel it...i know what would happen then...thsts why im not drinking through this but as it comes to a head im fearing an explosion....no voice leaves me no choice...ha it rhymes...funny how you notice the little things when you have nothing....and no soul...thanks you guys have been great but unfortunately i feel the end result will be the same.

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seamusunseanSenior Contributor08 Nov 2016, 8:40 pm AEDT

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Black dogs back been in bed all day...having thoughts of going again...fed up with life.

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