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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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Your doing better than me @tonys

Me and Mr Rocker are flying over to Tasmania for a week or two. Love Tasmania. Only been to Shrug and downtown Hobart.

  • I'll bring my 🎸 guitar so can practice. I can only play classical. It's still um..... Melodic I guess.

It's that or the sewing machine.

Chow.....nighty night

Listening to @TAB s music. Iv eaten too much for dinner tonight...,

 

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enjoy your trip @PeppyPatti 😊

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@PeppyPatti have you been introduced to @tonys alternate western world of Tonys Twoguns aka Yosemite Sam. LOL

@Jynx could most likely find it

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Hello @Glisten I can hear your passion for woodwork by reading your post.

Feels like such a gift to me. To hold a "passion", that makes us happy, possibly calms us and lets us focus on the present....and a passion/activity where one is always learning.

I do hope you get to tackle the "bed project" soon.

Thanks a million for sharing.

PS: Mid-century chairs sounds pretty cool too. 🙂

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@tonys

Just wanted to say I'm truly touched by your beautiful words.

To me they sound like poetry - they speak of beauty and pain, of human experience, of love and connection and hope lots of hope.

Thank you so much!

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Dear @PizzaMondo

Wow what a question, loneliness had directed my life for many years. I study that book to get a real grip in My beginnings. I unashamedly use AI and my support workers to help me- in the last 2 months iv been struggling with the first 2 chapters and introduction but I'm getting a good understanding.

I initially reopened the thread because I felt loneliness has directed MY life for many years. I realised in memory I would beg and beg my math tutor, my mum friends any adult to help me move out of my families home.

By coincidence at 15, I was hit by a car, clinically dead 7 times and coma 6 weeks. I was routinely kicked out of home almost every day when I got out of hospital...

Anyway, I remember at 16 yrs old- I remember I went to bed and decided to get better.

As I live my very small life, my sons are not present in my life but because of @Glisten I understand that we all have hearts that need healing.

As I wrote in a former thread

My little girl inside my heart is safe. I feel her cuddled up asleep wrapped around inside my heart. I regularly talk to her. I give her love I missed out on.

Thankyou.

 and @TAB I listen to Cowboy Junkies today.

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thats heavy @PeppyPatti

take it easy..

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Hey there @PeppyPatti 🤗🌺🙂

Yes, very much one of the things about in living within a body that entraps me is having a mind and heart that is free to live their own lives of joy 💜🙂

it’s like the more incapacitated I become, the less I live within the perceived constraints of such a thing ☺️

however you are right, it is functionally and logistically challenging, and the falls, injuries, and energy levels for any sustained tasks is difficult - that’s where I try to remember that if I saw someone else living alone like this, I’d have patience and understanding..that’s what I then try to remember for myself when it comes to feeling down for being in a body that isn’t quite the one I signed up for 🙂

Living in the positives does sound like a really nice way to live..there are many benefits that come from that, for sure 🌺🙂

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  • Yeah @Glisten
  • @fangorn @Former-Member .. @ @TAB @Bon_courage @EternalFlower @tonys
  • @Emilia8 @Shaz51 @Jynx

    @Meowmy @Appleblossom @Historylover

@Bill16

@Lite @Lila3 @

@Former-Member @@Bunniekins @Oaktree @cloudcore @Doldip15 @St @

  • @@TAB @cloudcore

I’m furiously sewing quilts to gift two quilts next week, I need to have them ready over the weekend…….

Thought

I might check out men’s shed in Joondalup Monday morning but long way to travel………heard there’s a great coffee place there too.

I heard that in this particular men’s shed, there’s a woman’s section and I wanna see what it can do for me.

I love just sitting down somewhere and just staying un overwhelmed it really helps me because I get like this after having a head injury.

Dearest @Former-Member I read you.

Do you trust your Gp ? Iv had terrible GPS in the past but a lot of my issues was that there was so much going on. I reread a letter from one of those awful GPS and she wrote that I was under severe stress.

I wonder what that means to everyone ??

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my current GP is good enough @PeppyPatti I guess I trust them , within the bounds of the system they work in. Go to womens shed and sit. Good luck with the quilts

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