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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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@Bon_courage Tres Bon.
I’m Monday Supervisor at the Joondalup Women’s Shed.

I have an aptitude for woodworking. My Bestie @tonys has seen my projects.

Table, chairs, stools, T-ball rack, seed packet box. Still working on two guitar racks.

Today one of the guys at the shed, gave me his unfinished project of four Mid Century chairs he rescued from the tip.

I really want to make a bed.


Every Shed is different. I’m self taught, out of necessity to be honest. Commercially there is so much badly made, ugly furniture. I begrudge spending my money on it, so got to make it.

I make plenty of mistakes, wood is like people, often unpredictable reactions to chemicals. It will split, crack, giveaway under pressure.

I would be quite happy to spend all day, everyday woodworking, nothing else makes me happier.

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@Glisten

How awesome.

I sew quilts - I think like how you create woodwork. I only sew squares but I love LOVE sewing them.

Cheers to you @Glisten

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Thankyou @Former-Member I'll take your pink stole any day and wrap the feather boa round my neck in joint friendship.

 

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Hey there @PeppyPatti ☺️🌺

Aw, you’re such a sweetheart!
big hugs to you 🤗💜🌺

I hope your day goes well today, and you’re feeling good ☺️🌺

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@Former-Member @Do you think, with all your physical ailments…..so so much for you to bear…..

you can find joy in being open hearted?

I think you do, always having the benefit of the doubt.


although I try and imagine you and I cannot understand how tough it is when say getting petrol for your car, at nighttime…..

this is how I like to live my life. I’m very fortunate, the positives from my head injury is that I look at the positives and this is what attracted me to my ex husband, he also does this. He is more like a child though then his very high iq kicks in every now and again.

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Wood is like people. Truer words never spoken @Glisten The driftwood some of us carry within.

Just got back home and thought I will back up a bit and eat crow on the loneliness thread. Its not so hard to do the things I do. I have the means and body to take me where life calls me.

For me to make suggestions to people and try and lay a path is not too hard, but I know only too well

that some of you are trapped in almost inescapable situations. Glass bubbles and endless troubles.

I remember the letters of desperation we exchanged when I first met you @Glisten and that was not so long ago. You built from absolutely nothing a kingdom of hope around you. You and so many others on here clutching at this and that. Pictures, kind words from strangers A small patch of garden

or song, but mostly each others words. People with nothing, trying to create something.

I find that a very powerful thing. That makes everyone of you the hero's of the story. Raw courage.

An army with less than nothing showing the demon what the human heart can do when we take our sticks and stones throw them at loneliness.

I had nothing once. Street person . An alcoholic Street person. Run over by a van. Hospital then a cot in half way home. Autistic people get run over a lot. A whole lot of me was broken and bed bound.

A guy from the Salvo's gave me 3 things. A picture of Nelson Mandela, A picture of Steven Hawking and an old harmonica. Now . . I could already play the harmonica but, the message was in those pictures. Over the agonizing months I played that tarnished hunk of metal till my lips bled, Put

oil on my lips and kept playing till the sounds could take me into the dark misty, air moss everglades

and beyond. The bed rotted, but the, rotten man, outlived it.

I play now and smile back to that time, knowing that for me, there was no better place to be reborn than

the world of nothing.

I still leave the comfort of my home and swag it in the city now and then so I never forget what it was to truly feel alive.

Back to you. I have no right to assume your pain or assume your swim to the light. All I can say is

while you have a mind, even an unwell mind, and if you love art, . . especially an unwell mind !,

you carry the light for yourself, and for all of us.

@Bon_courage and Kind thoughts to all tonys.

Thankyou @Healandlove and @Lila3 @Former-Member @PeppyPatti and your beaut pictures.

@Oaktree Hope the suns on your face mate. @cloudcore @Shaz51 @Doldip15 @Former-Member

@ENKELI @Bunniekins @Historylover @TAB n @StuF @Adge @Meowmy @Jynx @saturnzoon and everyone

just making their way. Thats my one post ration. Have to bend the back n do some work.

@Glisten thanks mate . You are my little supper hero too. . .

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Wish we could share audio @tonys I would absolutely love to hear you ripping an exquisite, hauntingly beautiful melody on the harmonica. For some reason, it also makes a LOT of sense as an instrument you would play 😉

Keep on shining your light, friend.

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Hey @Jynx

@tonys

Do you think the harmonica represents loneliness from all those cowboy movies 🎥 ??

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Love this song

 

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