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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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@PeppyPatti ahh thank you for explaining. My male cousin has disorganised schizophrenia. I think it's a hard diagnosis to manage. There are groups for mental health issues but my cousin doesn't go to them.

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Hi there @Rollon

Thank you for sharing what you've gone through and how you are feeling here with us on the forums ❤️

I really hope that you're able to get the support and advice that you need right now.

That sounds very challenging, especially if your main support of your husband also likes to spend time alone and feels as if he doesn't need anyone else. Do you currently seek any supports in terms of mental health professionals?

Do you have any hobbies or anything that you could try to integrate that you like, into a group environment? Such as activities or walks that might be in your local area?

Sitting with you,

Amber22

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Thanks Josie72

your post raised an awareness of just how great that painful recurrence is and can be! It’s like walking through thick fog knowing you can see something different but unsure it’s there through the curtain of invisibility!
After the orphanage, I had this permanent litany in my head! I am nothing and no one! Each time something happens to reawaken the trauma - “I am nothing, and no one”. Days, weeks, of reflection, pain, doodling, fear of communication, wrong communication, all sorts of errors- before I can sit comfortably with myself again! I am a person! I do have a right to be heard! I belong!
but the fear is always inside! And I dread it breaking out again! Am I really nothing?
for today maybe someone?

thanks again for sharing

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Dearest @Lila3

Sounds like my ex-husband. He has NDIS which has been wonderful for him.

I don't know if he can do anymore groups wise but I may look at groups for him and go with him to see if he can socially meet someone.

Thankyou very much for the suggestion.

I really needed that.

 

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@PeppyPatti Questions only your sons can answer.

Only recently I learned from my daughter, never have expectations of people. Because you will always be disappointed.

We are all flawed, we all make mistakes. Some of us make the same mistake repeatedly, and that’s what makes us human.

I said to my grandchildren “I am human. I will make mistakes and that’s ok”.

G

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Nwww back at ya @Shaz51

Hugs

G

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Hi Amber 22 I suffer chronic fatigue so walking is not for me. So no hobbies as I am always so tired. My last Psychiatrist retired and am yet to yet find another one and there is quite a wait. My Doc sent me to a Psychoanalyst which was a huge waste of money. I have a long awaited GP appointment coming up so heavily rely on what his intentions will be with me.

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@Rollon Chronic fatigue I feel for you. Horrible condition. Is it regarded as a condition? I have no idea.

I hope something wonderful happens for you.

G

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This comment has been moved to the poetry thread as requested by tonys. The thread is titled 'Roses are red, violets are blue, here's a poetry thread, from me to you' if you wish to search for it 🙂

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Breathtaking poetry. I was once homeless & this takes me right back there. I'm grateful 🙏🏼 for the roof over Mt head today.
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