Children not communicating

Oh @Ffm48

What a kind gesture and act of belief in you as a person who is valued. I'm sure you will treasure her card. I do hope this will allow you to stride forward with a greater sense of your own worth as well as the knowledge that your trip to Europe has been successful. You're just one step closer to realising fulfillment of your hopes and dreams.

Walking beside you as you walk a road less travelled. 🎶💕

Hey @Kurra thats great news about your daughter 💜😊

@Ffm48 still thinking of you. I really hope in time the dust will settle and your children will come around. Take good care of you for now as I can imagine now that your home things will swirl in your head. You have been truly courageous through this. Sending hugs and best wishes 💜😊🤗💐

I love @Kurra and @Former-Member's responses to you @Ffm48 ...... the card really lets you know that a bridge has been created by your trip ..... and you know what ? Those kids will remember that you visited .... despite whatever the parents choose to do .... just keep going, looking for opportu ities to participate, and they will all know you are around and waiting ....

Courage, strength to persevere, hope, faith, and hugs coming your way .... and lots of 'em .... 🌷💗💕

Courage is a funny thing .... it engenders courage in others too .... we might be walking with you, but we are also borrowing from your example .... your courage to do what you did fortifies ours to keep persevering too .... ripples in a pond .....

I hear you @Kurra. I feel much the same. In joy and exuberance you can destroy what is just promising to grow. Considering mine haven't talked for four years, I can't expect loving family in a couple of days or weeks. Problem for me is that I'm picking and choosing my words so terribly carefully, then have to translate them that in the end I'm no longer sure whether I'm saying what I want to say.

My sister-in-law now understands that not appearances can be deceiving and the nature of DV. I know that in her dealings with her brother, my X she will have different antennaes out. I can't ask for more than that ... I'm hoping for a trickle down effect with my children. She doesn't tell people what to do; she tends to ask people questions - she's really good at that.

Indeed, so many with MI have been separated from their loved ones; have lost contact. That's tough and on top of the MI we have to learn to cope, manage the hurt of isolation from family and finding strategies of reconnection.

I have decided to return to Europe next year irrespective of whether my children talk to me in the meantime or not. I'm sending them an email/message about this today. I hope this will kick-start a continuation of the conversation - I haven't heard from them since I left *sigh*.

This is a very difficult situation that your in.

I am thinking of you but have some big errands to run this morning. I'lle think about it though and will get back tio you.

It feels like you aremaking the right decisions in your life.

Can we write about what you think will happen if you

dont go.

do go.

My oldest son doesnt talk to me. I speak about it almost every day with my husband and the pain that I feel.