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I was suggested to visit this website for online help with my on going failing mental health issues. I was told l have Borderline Personality Disorder by 2 Psychiatrists. I struggle daily and l also self harm as a result of it all.
I barely speak to people anymore. I thought l would see what l can do to repair myself.
I have lived this way for a long time now and time is running out for me as l am giving up.
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@oceangirl awesome , sorry was testing it out
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I was l guess not expecting so much thoughts of assistance. Its been a tiresome journey being myself and l dont tell people of my self harm but its hard to miss the banadaged arm or wrist and with the coming warmer weather , you get the looks but no one really asks. Its the unknown questions that linger and l stay away from obvious questions.
I appreciate all the help and hopefully future.
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@Former-Member I'm so sorry to hear that things are so hard at the moment 
I can really hear the pain you're going through.
If you'd like to connect with a broader community of people living with BPD, @BPDSurvivor created an amazing thread over at Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script - I'm not sure if you've come across it yet?
And if you think it could be helpful to talk to someone, here are some options available:
Lifeline: 13 11 14 or Crisis Chat
Suicide call back service: 1300 659 467 or online counselling
If in immediate danger: 000
I'll also check in with you by email. Take care
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hello @Former-Member
Welcome to the forum. The therapeutic aspect can be ongoing rather than simple fact sheets although they can help too. SO many different stories and people and therefore a rich reservoir of lived experience is on here. The understanding of underlying causes was key for me.
I have had a wide range of SH and struggled with my sibs SH. I honestly have only had time to get into specific research about it in last 10 years, before then I had just had to weather the blistering storms of my life, with lots of slipping back ... 4 steps fwd and 2 or 5 steps back!
Healing and moving on from SH can very hard. Tbh I have reduced the major problematic behaviours, but still have residual tendencies/compulsions like mild trichillomania and discoriation disorder which might gross people out, but I am working mostly well with compulsions when I am aware and can catch the thought behind it or the feeling of self punishing.
It is a journey, but know that it is possible to heal both your current wound and the 'instincts' that lead us to cause ourselves harm.
Take Care
Apple
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Hello @Former-Member
Yeah thanks l recieved your email. Um things are unbearable last nite and today just keeping it together. No l dont have anyone who l can openly talk to , those few that l occassionally talk to wouldnt understand. So its better to keep silent. My dreams are showing me a horrific ending that l am really trying to ignore. So l listen to loud music to fade them away.
I am fine for now.
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