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I was suggested to visit this website for online help with my on going failing mental health issues. I was told l have Borderline Personality Disorder by 2 Psychiatrists. I struggle daily and l also self harm as a result of it all.
I barely speak to people anymore. I thought l would see what l can do to repair myself.
I have lived this way for a long time now and time is running out for me as l am giving up.
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StuFSenior Contributor
@Former-Member
Not a great deal I can say right now, but you Will be heard here and hopefully some can offer more help
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cloudcoreSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member ,
Welcome to the forums. I hear how much you are struggling at the moment, it must be an awful and isolating experience managing BPD and self harm without support. SH is something I've used to cope in the past when I was in a dark place as well, so please know you're not alone here. Your feelings of hopelessness are completely understandable.
I'm going to send you an email to check in on you in just a moment, but I hope you feel supported here on the forums as well.
from cloudcore
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SnowieSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
Welcome to the Sane forums. I hoep you find it a supportive place just like I do.
I too Self Harm quite a bit so can understand where you are coming from.
It is hard to speak to people about our Mental Illnesses but I find on her that there is always someone who can relate to me and understand where I am coming from.
Please feel free to keep expressing how you feel and how you are going,
Hoping to talk soon
Snowie
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Unknown userMember
Thank you for your help , l stepped away to tend to my , well wound , also my mobile and laptop were going flat which is why l didnt see what was sent .
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Unknown userMember
Hi Snowie,
Thank you , l hope to find some support with all the madness l am feeling right now.
SH has been a go to tactic , l used and are using presently as l cannot regulate my moods or emotions , and also on meds which take away my feelings so , l hurt to feel. I know its not the right way to deal with it all but , as you said its hard to talk to people about mental illness.
Evanthia
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Unknown userMember
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Unknown userMember
Hey there @Former-Member,
I wanted to pop by and welcome you to the forums and let you know you are also welcome to contact our Help Centre and speak to a counsellor (Mon-Fri, 10am-10pm) on 1800 18 7263.
If you need some support around self-harm, I encourage you to contact a crisis service-
Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467
Lifeline: 13 11 14
I hope you are feeling connected the community. I look forward to seeing you around.
Take care,
Sphinxly
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
@Former-Member
Hi and welcome to the forum.
I hear you.
If you type @ a dropbox will appear and you can tags members and also you type @ and then type in members name if they don't appear in the dropbox.
I wanted to say that you're strong person to deal with a mental issue and I hope you can move forward and find peace and healing in your life. The forum is a supportive and caring place for you to be supported to make changes in your life. Hope to see you in the forum.
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jem80Senior Contributor
@Former-Member
Welcome to the forums.
As mentioned @Former-Member already please feel free to reach out to one of the helplines like lifeline to chat to someone. They have been really helpful for me.
In relation to what you have mentioned they are not failings of mental health issues, it is that you have challenges in your life. I have self harmed in the past myself however to keep well I have many strategies that I have developed over time.
sometimes I feel better chatting on the forums than talking to someone so feel free to post here.
sitting with you during this challenging time.
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member ,
Thank you for sharing. Like you, I can certainly relate to some of the struggles you are having. I'm glad you have been directed here where you know you are not alone.
As a survivour of BPD, I can only appreciate the methods you are using to reduce the emotional pain. I too used to regularly self-harm. Although my therapists did not encourage my SH, they saw through it to help me find the real me. At no point did they say 'don't SH' because they knew i needed help for the emotionally hurt inner-child to heal. However, I would like to say, please tend to your SH as medically required.
After much therapy, today I can truly say I am so grateful for my BPD. You know what? I believe it has made me a better person. It's helped me to know what people struggle with, what people feel, and what it's like to feel hopeless. I also know what it feels like to overcome the challenges of MH with the help of people who genuinely care.
I hope you too will be able to connect with those who really want to help you find the real YOU.
You deserve to be cared for. You deserve to be well. You deserve to feel connection, acceptance and belonging.
I encourage you to continue reaching out here - a safe, anonymous platform. If you have any questions around BPD, I'd be more than willing and happy to answer to the best of my ability.
Looking forward to hearing from you. Once again, thank you for your post.
BPDSurvivor
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