enngemContributor
Caring for my husband who makes up stories about me
Since December 2020, my husband started accusing me of all sorts of things. They range in topics from having an affair, to trying to divorce him, to trying to get him in trouble with child protection.
NONE OF WHAT HE HAS SAID IS TRUE.
He has PTSD and has been seeing a psychologist.
I rang this person with my concerns and was fobbed off. He told me they were focussing just on the PTSD and he wasn't interested in my observations on this stuff.
Finally got hubby to a psychiatrist who I spoke with who thought hubby might have delusional jealousy/pathological jealousy. He was also diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder (which the psychologist had not picked up on previously). The delusional jealousy hasn't been confirmed with hubby to my knowledge.
A recent call with this psychiatrist indicated the same, spoken in general terms and that he would get hubby to book in a few seasons in advance to avoid the long wait times between sessions.
Next thing I know, only one session in 8 weeks time was booked in and hubby tells me they're basically finished their work together.
Now hubby has booked us in to a relationship counsellor this week to work on "the next step". At almost $200/hr, I am concerned we'll jist be going in circles again and not getting any real help.
What is a relationship psychologist going to be able to do in this situation?
I have been seeing my own psychologist for support as I have not been coping with all this. She believes he sounds paranoid or delusional. And she doesn't believe there is anything wrong with me (which hubby has now started accusing me of - that he's fine and I'm not).
I am at a huge loss as to what to do. I called the local mental health triage team recently who said I'd done everything I can and it was positive he was going to the psychiatrist willingly.
I'm so left out of the loop with everything and it's been ongoing for almost 6 months. I'm almost at the end of my tether and don't know how much more I can take of this.
Has anyone got any experience or advice to share? I went to our GPout of desperation recently and all she could suggest was ringing Relationships Australia. So I did. And they said they wouldn't be able to help. Of course, hubby says they only said that because of what I told them.
Here are some examples of things he's accused me of:
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of coming out at work training
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of conspiring with our son against you
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of conspiring with my family against you
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of trying to measure my wedding rings to be able to sell them
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of collecting evidence to be able to divorce you
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of trying to record you on your dash cam
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of trying to sabotage your dash cam to be able to drive around to visit people behind your back
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of having a lover at our house while you were at work
<span;>[ ] Believing my family have said things about you and against you
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of planning to move out
<span;>[ ] Sneaking around to take pictures and screenshots of conversations I've had where I've tried to reach out to people for help
<span;>[ ] Accusing me of not trusting you with our daughter
<span;>[ ] Accused of having secret apps on my phone to be able to talk to to people in secret
