@Ybother
Hello
A few thoughts following our discussion last night and this morning by
@HenryX
I believe that difficult financial, relationship, and personal circumstances, pressure of work and/or studies and events that cause us significant pain and distress, can seem to narrow down our sense of the funnel of time through which we are travelling. This process can make it seem that everything is condensed and pressed together in an interconnected mesh around us. It is when we actually get into a better position, in any or all of these aspects of our life, that we can separate and deal individually with these elements of our lives.
It can sometimes feel that it takes more effort, than we have available to us, to see through to a better place. As all discussions on this forum are open to everyone, you are welcome to look at any or all the discussions that I have had with people here, since I rejoined the forum in February this year.
You can access my profile page and all those discussions by first left-clicking my forum name @HenryX , which will give you access to my profile and all the discussions. In all those discussions we relate to each other in different ways depending on the circumstances described and our respective views on each circumstance. Some of the discussions are light greetings and courtesies, others are deeper, about specific concerns that people have in their lives. Many have described trauma early or later in life. Each person is here because they are wanting to address issues and/or experiences that have caused them, or people they care for, and about, difficulty, pain or distress, to the point that it is, or has become a mental health issue. Some people are here as carers of someone with a, or a number of mental health issues.
You may see that I 'talk' with each person differently according to how they present themselves and the issues that they wish to discuss.
In terms of difficulties that we can share with one another. It doesn't even have to be the same events that we have had, or experienced. In the case of our discussion, your description of the feelings, memories, recollections and thoughts, brings to my mind the recollections and feelings about my own negative, and sometimes, positive experiences. In fact, the paradox is, that if I did not have revived, those recollections and thoughts, I could not empathise, or in any way identify, with the feelings and thoughts about the circumstances that you are in at the present time. That would make any sharing of our thoughts and feelings almost meaningless. In effect we might as well be robots.
What, I guess, I am saying, is that it is really only through our own experiences that we are able to empathise, and possibly, in some way, identify and relate to someone else's negative experience and circumstance, as is also the case with shared enjoyment of positive experiences.
It is only by dealing with our subsequent thoughts and feelings about those events, and, packing them into an accessible package and storing them, rather than trying to get rid of them, that we can, eventually, be in a position to share with and support others through their negative experiences, or shared enjoyment of similar positive experiences.
That is why, I believe, that even on a forum, where we only know each other by a pseudonym and an avatar, that we can relate and be of assistance to each other. We do that by sharing the details of our present thoughts and feelings, whether they are positive and uplifting or negative and seem to weigh us down.
Considering the mutual support aspect of interaction on the forum, this discussion also helps me. The process is not one way. Discussions such as you and I are having, enable me, in this instance, to make some sense of my own experiences and to give them some value. That last statement might seem strange, but it is sometimes worthwhile to unpack our feelings and review them, so that they do not fall so deep into our subconscious that they can do us harm, without us realising that that is happening. This is where the word and meaning of cathartic comes into play. When we state vocally, or in writing our circumstances, feelings and thoughts.
These are just a few thoughts that I have had following our discussion last night and this morning.
While you have stated that you do not think that your situation will get any better, I can say to you that I believe it can and it will, from my own, personal experience. That is not to say that life gets to a lovely plateau and stays there. But, from my own experience of the ups and downs of this cyclic life that we live, there will be much better times in your life. I very much hope that you will allow and work towards that happening.
With all the Care, Consideration and Empathy
that I can offer to
You @Ybother
With My Very Best Wishes
@HenryX
