@Oaktreeand @Sophia1
Hello Meggle and Sophia
Welcome to this conversation Sophia, and no apology needed, or forgiveness necessary. You are, with Meggle, the other person with whom I feel a close connection. I believe that we have each had some challenges in our respective conversations and come through that process with a clearer, stronger and more connected understanding of each other.
Thank you, to both of you, for giving the time, care and consideration needed to develop the relationships, with each other, and together.
In addition to our connections, there are certainly others on the forum, with whom I feel considerable “compatibility and connection”, and I am sure that the degree of closeness that we three have, takes nothing from the appropriate, enjoyable and valuable connections that we have with others.
You and I both shared the humour, Sophia, on the passing of the message response to me {“now it's your turn”}. I am aware also, that Meggle was on her phone and was replying to me in sections and that she had completed her sectioned response. Meggle's memory seems to be well given and undoubtedly well developed.
My brother got the 'memory credits' when they were handed out. I find that I really have to apply repetition and association of ideas to retain information. I do understand the “cruel joke” feeling about God granted gifts and imposed restrictions and constraints. Maybe that is simply part of the challenge of our earthly existence.
I am also familiar with the mobility issue in childhood and teenage years and the consequent effect on social development and academic achievement. These factors in conjunction with in-home issues can be really limiting.
I don't have or live a hermit type lifestyle, though the connections that I do have are probably more general social than close friends. However, those connections in the community are sufficient to enable me to feel that there are mutually supportive and beneficial relationships for both me and others with whom those relationships exist. I think that my capacity, or otherwise, to establish close friendships and relationships is bound up with the family and social background and original and, or subsequent psychological issues that I face.
The difficulty with viewing you-tube videos is that it can be a very time consuming and absorbing activity, and another area where I have to apply some self-imposed restraint. However, the ones that we have discussed, give a reasonable cross-section of presentation styles and content, in our areas of interest. One more presentation is by Steven Stokes from an Australian organisation, most of which I have viewed. It gives some of the more theoretical aspects associated with C-PTSD and other issues. The presenter has a slightly Australian, hesitant style of speech in the video, which I increased to 1.25 speed. While I found the speech style somewhat distracting, I think that it covers some good material. The video is quite long at 1:17:37, but feel that you may find it of value in information, and also in following any counsellors foundation for ideas given.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6sbYIKC7-Tw
Again, apologies not required, we are on the forum at different times and with our various other commitments, so we communicate and respond when we are able. I know also, that there are certainly times when I am present physically, but really not able to give or respond in the way that I feel would be most appropriate at that time.
For Now,
Love and Best Wishes to You Both
HenryX
