Is this workplace bullying? I am unsure... this will be a long post

@MDT Well your mum sounds like a wonderful and wise woman.

Also, kinda shitty that your manager went and said anything about what was happening--feel like that in itself would warrant a write up.

I'll say this though, I've never worked anywhere that isn't a breeding ground for gossipy bull crap. It's everywhere we go. Glad you're moving to a new section, and i hope the people there are better to be around.

And people like "D" make enemies out of more than one employee, no doubt there's more folks at your work who are getting treated like shite. Find them, they'll keep you sane throughout the day.

Good idea @MDT and if you have it written out now at least that way it's there ready to go if/when you need it

Hi there @MDT

As I haven't worked in quite a long time due to health reasons, I feel like I can't really say much except to agree with @saltandpepper @Snowie

If the people there are still trying to talk about things in the past, then to me, that means they haven't got anything much to do and that they have got their own issues and want to only focus on what I see as a weaker person ie- you to make themselves feel good. It's almost like a silly game of power in a sense in that regard.

I hope what I said has helped in some way and I wish you all the best in dealing with your issues.

Take care forumite friend.

Judi9877

There's actually a pretty good Buddhist story about bullying in general. Of course, we can't all be Buddha all the time but I feel that Buddha set the benchmark.

"After many days of travel, Buddha arrived at a small town to give a speech. Everyone was happy to see him, except one young man.

While Buddha spoke, the man was shouting at him. Buddha did not pay attention and continued speaking. This infuriated the man even more. He walked directly in front of Buddha and continued to ridicule him. “You have no right to teach others. You’re stupid and you’re a fake!”

The crowd began to react to this young man’s caustic behavior. Buddha stopped the crowd from turning against him and said, “It is not always necessary to counter aggression by aggression.”

Instead, he turned to the man and asked, “If you buy a gift for someone and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”

The young man was surprised by the question, thought for a moment and answered, “It would belong to me because I bought the gift.”

The Buddha said, “Correct. It’s the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I don’t feel insulted nor accept your hostility, the anger falls back on you, as it was initially yours to give. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you’ve done is hurt yourself.”

The young man understood, clasped his hands together and slowly bowed to the Buddha. It was an acknowledgement that this man learned a valuable lesson that day.

And so, the Buddha concluded, “As a mirror reflects an object, as a still lake reflects the sky, take care that what you speak or act is for good. For goodness will always cast back goodness and harm will always cast back harm.”

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Well that worked out sh*t mate