How do you believe in love again?

@ first i have no idea where this reply will end up. im new, have a brain injury and know more about flying the space shuttle than sending a kite, sorry to make you a test subject. i think you really have to love yourself first. then yes its unfortunate that lots of woman like the bad boy types. i used to look in the singles adds in the northern star and most the priorities where for tall, job, financually independent etc, etc. i never once saw an add that said i want a plain guy that drives a garbage truck and most imortant, is a pound puppy that wont bash me. but when you stop looking, suddenley the sun comes out from behind the clouds and there she is. in school i always chased the short chubby plain janes they had the biggest hearts, theyre not spoilt in love, and in winter, theirs the savings in heating costs. life is not fair, and everyone is looking for someone that doesnt exist, but if some one with brain dammadge autism and looks like a walking bus accident can find love, you will too. im looking too and you have to kiss a lot of toads before you get a princess but you just have too take a new stratagy. i found putting an add in the papper works because im way to shy to approach girls but if you can keep a lass laughing you might land a lady and when you do, worship her like shes a god....which of coarse they are. you take good care of you and i hope your dream. tonys

Hi there @tonys,

Great to meet you, and welcome to the forums 😊

I noticed your insightful (and cheeky) response here to a former member, so you might not get a response from them. That said, I'm going to tag a member who I think you might get along with, @TAB, because something tells me you might share a similar sense of humour.

@Former-Member thanks for that . yes i found that i have to sort my animals into personality types. the pigs and dog have a sence of humour and the head rooster definantley does not. i do have a funny way of seeing the world but im always well intentioned, so if you have another nut case there, please send them my way. stay safe and warm. tonys

I like that analogy @tonys, the world can resemble Orwell's Animal Farm at times!

It's interesting you use the term "nut case". I understand the meaning in this case is derived from having an off the wall sense of humour, which I share, I wonder how others in the community feel about about the term. I know the LGBTQIA+ community have re-appropriated the word "queer", and many find it empowering to do so, wonder if this is the same.

What do you think @tonys,
and @Appleblossom @Clawde @TAB @chibam @Shaz51 @StuF @MDT @hanami

@tonys if you haven't checked it out already we have a welcome thread here, and a good morning thread here if you want to get amongst it 😊 I'm partial to the music thread here too.

Great question @Former-Member about the term nutcase! I instantly laugh about it because growing up my mum used to say 'we're all nutcases here'. Then I know it's perhaps not a great thing to say anymore like saying when things are really busy that thing are 'crazy' or 'insane'. That said there is a movement of people who have taken back the term 'mad'. Mad in America is a book that makes for interesting reading. So yes, that begs the question, could we take back the term 'nutcase'? I know there would be some people who say no way but others who would say yes. Very interested to hear other perspectives.

Interesting read about 'mad' https://www.sbs.com.au/programs/how-mad-are-you/article/2018/10/09/why-reclaiming-mad-makes-sense-mental-health

Yeah Im not sure @Former-Member @tonys maybe its okay between people or on here.
I think MH advocacy is way behind other groups . Its also fundamentally Different in some ways as a lot of it is to do with aspiring to be 'normal' or seem normal or fit in w normal society.
not like lbgt etc its the other way round .. like society has to fit in w Them

@TAB, I agree that it's probably one of those things we can use amongst those of us who have lived experience, but I might choose to use a more empowered term with those that don't because, well, stigma and all that.

What is doubly interesting is this aspiring to be "normal" or fit in – what is normal? Who decides these parameters? That's what I love about these forums, there is no such thing as "normal", everyone is free to simply be.

Oh yeah @hanami, great link you've shared and point you make here. I will have to do a search for the How 'Mad' Are You? show on SBS.

Yep me too! I vaguely remember watching the first episode but not the rest. Will definitely have a look for it.