Hi... first post... struggling ..

Hi @IamNOTalone welcome to the bushfire forums!

First off, thank you for taking your time to share with us. It must be hard.

I’m so sorry with your experience with coming so close to losing your life.

Your wife and children still have you and you still have them. I experienced similar on the same NYE.

I wouldn’t wish this on anybody.

Its ok to cry. It helps it really does. Bottleling up emotions doesn’t get us anywhere. It sounds like you really need a break too. I hope you can get some time off over this new year.

Thank you for admitting your anger issues.

The first step to changing, is acknowledging.

Are you able to seek help with your anger issues, or have you found any thing that helps them?

my husband has to physically leave- to calm himself down.

I have to just burnt out in emotion (by myself, preferred)

thank you for sharing your story tonight. I’ve been reading a few posts tonight and glad I came across yours so fresh, so if you’re still online I would love to chat further with you tonight.

@Burnt thanks for replying so soon.

i find I am

getting worse with the anniversary coming up.

No one cares enough about me to help or anything. Just another brick in the wall

@IamNOTalone Welcome.

My heart went out to you as I read your post. I could hear your pain.

I’m so sorry you have lost your home and belongings. It’s no wonder you feel like you are falling apart.

I can well imagine the anniversary bringing everything back.

Grief is a very difficult emotion to understand, but it always follows lost of any kind.

I hope eventually, you can find someone to talk, cry and yell this through with.

Here and listening, any time you want/need to talk.

Hey @IamNOTalone,

Thank you so much for sharing so openly and with such courage and candor As a few others have mentioned here, please know it's ok to cry and let out the emotions you're experiencing. To my mind, it may actually help to challenge those attitudes by letting others know it is ok to let it out, though I also recognise that letting others see this display of emotions is something it takes a lot of courage to do.

As far as the anger, I'm wondering if there is anything constructive you could channel it into? I know of a few people who like to release through exercise or gym visits for example.

I can also understand how these feelings may be intensified by the anniversary of the fires approaching. It sounds like you've got some great techniques to release with the shower and a little time in your car though, and I'm wondering if you've had any thoughts about what might help you through riding out the wave of this upcoming anniversary?

Feel free to keep posting and we'll be here with you to lend a (virtual) shoulder and ear.

TideisTurning

Hi again @IamNOTalone , how has your week been?

Thank you @Maggie . I took a couple day break after admitting this. Weight off my shoulders. It’s just so hard

Hi @TideisTurning thank you for your reply to me. I do wish I had time to Chanel into other avenues, I’m afraid I never get time.

@Burnt feels better now I can admit to myself where and what I need to change. I wish there was more assistance from our government tho. We are abandoned

I feel you regarding that. I think we can all say we feel that.

Abandoned

forgotten

@IamNOTalone @Burnt @TideisTurning 💕💕💕💕