Hi @Faith-and-Hope
It was incredibly windy here yesterday - and warm - but in the evening we had heavy rain - and during the night - off-and-on - heavy rain
If your doctor told you not to fear pain it seems to me an indication that he hasn't had much - a lot of painful issues or even just one really bad painful bad back - alas - that is pain to fear - I guess most people would fear it - and go to all sorts of lengths to make sure whatever caused it is not likely to happen again or do all sorts of things to improve the situation -
I am afraid at the beginning of a flare-up with my back-pain - and the things that cause a flare-up can be totally out of our control - alas
Yes - pain tells us something is wrong - but working through physicial therapy is painful and hard work - and of course D3 will be afraid of exercising her dislocated knee - she has enough on her plate - and fear of pain is one way our mind is protecting our body
But yes - it is something to be worked through
Guilt now - is that the same thing? _ Do we not do something because we will feel guilty? Ah no - we just feel guilty after the act - and we learn - this is part of the getting of wisdom
So many of us feel guilty when we need not - it's the old parent-tapes - running uselessly - I bet most of the things that cause guilt from our childhood are not wrong at all - just our mother getting in a twist because we said the wrong thing in front of Auntie Whoever
Like you said - we need to shift the inappropriate guilt - it is so often about things that just annoyed our mother -
In fact - my mother could stir up guilt in me - and I usually could not understand what I had done - and often - I did not know before I did it that it was going to be a problem
But when I was told I was a "norty litle gurl" once or twice - I realised what I had done was wrong - I had been disobedient or something
But yes - guilt is often inappropriate - when there has been no crime involved
Guilt and pain are quite different though - childhood guilt is about something we have done to annoy someone - pain is something to fear as it has yet to happen
This is too complicated for a Monday morning
Decadian
