Moving forward

@Former-Member@ @Former-Member @utopia

Teens are hard work. They're sh*tty, moody, unappreciative, selfish, demanding, oppositional .... and then suddenly they're a ray of sunshine that lights up your world .... then before you have time to celebrate that thought .... the baby dragon mode is back, burning the landscape to cinders ....

Just when you start wondering how you could have got it all so wrong, and what a terrible mother you are .... 21yo arrives, and everything you invested in them begins to shine it's light .... still takes a few more years to get itself established .... few more burnt landscapes .... but golly-gosh .... y'all got there ❣

With or without mi issues ....

Please try to choke down the guilt and just enjoy the sunshine moments .... recharging your solar batteries for the burn-out times .... it's a roller-coaster existence with teens .... no doubt about it ❣

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Group hugzzz ❤️

Hi @utopia

I am sorry you feel as if you could lie in bed all day and cry - I understand that - I have done that or felt like that in the past

Also - I can tell you one thing about parenting - no matter how good we are with it - no matter how wonderful as are as people first and then parents - in later life our middle-aged children will be telling us how rotten we were - how terrible the food was - how we neglected our gardens - how busy we were with our own interests.

But - with all of that -how did my dd turn out to be such a wonderful woman, person, mother and grandmother? She had to learn that from someone - and which woman in the family was she with most? Who taught her to cook and keep house? Where did she learn her values?

When I read what people are writing here in these forums I believe I am talking with and listening to the most caring, sensible and self-examing people in the world - and MI or not - people here CARE SO MUCH - and that is not an MI - that is incredibly beautiful

I think most people have an MI of some kind - maybe not always labelled or even seen - and yes - it may rub off

I know you are worried about your son - that's natural and a sign you are not self-centred - he is old enough to understand you are not well and that's why you stay in bed sometimes - but your light shines out in the forum - I am sure it shines out toward him too

I know he is the most precious thing in the world for you

Decadian

Hey @utopia

You're having a pity-party - How wonderful! I am feeling crappy and sorry for myself - can I come?

I promise you sinusitis is not catching - I am feeling mournful and bleak - tired and my head weighs too much - and I would be a wonderful candidate for making a competition of how bad we can feel today.

On the other hand - I need a shower - aw

I get the feeling of the pity-party thing - you go ahead and have it - one thing I can promise you is that after a while it will get really boring and you will get up and be half-way normal - alas - staying in bed makes my back-ache -

Society inflicts us with rules - but feeling sorry for ourselves doesn't hurt anyone actually - maybe no one else will feel sorry for us so we have to do all of this for ourselves

Don't beat yourself up - time passes - have an nap and have another start today

And maybe I will do the same

Sending virtual hugs

Decadian

I like your Avatar too @Former-Member

And that's three for the Tuesday Pity-Party - I am still in my dressing gown - t-shirt and underwear - and it's nearly lunchtime

I can bring chips, yogurt and blueberries for snacks - if anyone wants to pretend what they eat is healthy - I have vegetable juice

How terrible it must be to be the only miserable person on the planet - with everyone wearing the face that they keep in a jar by the door

Sigh

Decadian