Am I being caring or enabling him to neglect his responsibilities?

Hi Everyone,

For the last few months (particularly while in lockdown in Melbourne), I've been struggling with a growing realisation that my husband's struggles (depression, anxiety and panic disorder) are potentially granting him permission (in his mind at least) to not step up regarding employment, parenting and home chore responsbilities. He is spending his days sleeping and watching the US elections unfold - all day every day. He's engaging in minimal effort in all other areas of life, including basic hygiene. Any time I attempt to discuss this with him, he responds that I'm criticising him and make him feel even worse, which then results in his contributing even less. I feel like my marriage is dissolving and I'm helpless to stop it. I'm feeling controlled and manipulated. Why would I even want to be in such a marriage? And all the finanical, parenting, home, etc responsibilities fall on me.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you effect a shift? The way we are heading one day I'll simply have enough and kick him out.

Thanks in advance,

Springtime