RB3Casual Contributor
Help for a Carer with no workable plan
Hi, my 78 year old mother is mentally ill (she has been my entire life) and now also very forgetful. My father died late last year, she is still grieving and with COVID struggling to find her way. She is pretty self sufficient but relies on my heavily for company. She gets depressed and sometimes threatens suicide. Since she has done this constantly for the 56 years I have been alive I believe it is a way for her to verbalise how bad she is feeling. In her happier moments she agrees. This threat triggers my brother badly and he gets angry. I am tired. I work etc. I find it very hard to times feel compassion towards her. I understand everything intellectually but she is so unlike me I struggle when she is down. I no longer know how to manage this situation now Dad has died. We used to work together. She refuses all normal avenues of help. I am not even sure what I am asking LOL. Any tips greatly appreciated. She is a depressive, bi polar and has psychotic episodes. She was also given deep sleep therapy with huge doses of barbituates and shock therapy around 1967. I would feel better if I had a plan I could swing into action.
