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Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor05 Aug 2016, 9:52 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

People can experience a range of different responses following a traumatic event or period in their life. This month we would like to have a community discussion about trauma, hosted by @Former-Member, focusing on the challenges trauma throws our way and how we manage and cope with these challenges.

We would like to hear your experiences with different trauma responses (e.g.: memories, flashbacks, dissociation, etc,.), challenges you have faced with coping and strategies that have enabled you to cope with trauma.

If you haven't already, check out the Community Guidelines before participating tonight. This session isn't about the detail or reliving your past trauma and please be aware that specific and or graphic descriptions of trauma (abuse etc) will be removed, as it can be triggering for others members).

A big welcome to @Mary4 @james_biss @Bimby2 @Former-Member @j___________ @purplefeather @Bonny @chookmojo @1stepup61 @joannah @AngeB @mrkotter @Sehnsucht @myanxiousstory @Cdionfan @KangaRue @greenspace @programmanager @Christina @Shaz51 @Kt3 @Appleblossom @brizj @Sasha1@Mazarita @Martinks

@Former-Member is going to kick off in 10 mins - so stay tuned 🙂

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AussieGirlContributor16 Aug 2016, 7:23 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Hi @Former-Member. I am the same.

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1stepup61Senior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 7:24 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Hi, my experience has been similar as @Former-Member. It has helped to face the memories in counselling but its hard work.Has anyone done DBT? I have done CBT but thats difficult. Does DBT help? What is it please? @1stepup61

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 7:25 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Why does the brain rerun images, replay a traumatic event, even in our sleep, nightmares that wake us. This has happened to me twice this week. I hate seeing my girls lifeless body again and ...

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greenspaceSenior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 7:25 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

So sorry about your 13 y.o.'s death, @Former-Member

A psychologist told me that any loss or traumacan bring up the grief and distress of past losses and traumas, so we feel all of it at once.

I think a major loss like the death of a child would be huge in itself, plus trigger past distress, and so you would probably need lots of support, strategies, and time to grieve, to get through it all

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 7:26 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Hate the word death

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BonnyContributor16 Aug 2016, 7:27 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

I would have to say my response to trauma is dissociation it's almost a sureal out of body experience. It's like I can put the experienced truma outside of my being in able to continue to function. . . Sort of like a detachment from th realism.

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greenspaceSenior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 7:28 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Sorry for using that word

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 7:29 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Sorry, don't mean to snap. Thanks. I've heard its part of a process, and getting there, I don't have much support but counselling techniques have helped which I guess we'll do later. Again, thanks.

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Unknown userMember16 Aug 2016, 7:30 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Hi @Former-Member,

Thanks for sharing your experience of trauma with us all. These are all such common responses to a traumatic experience and can be really difficult to cope with day-to-day. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter, I cant imagine how painful that would have been and still is. Understandable that this brought up past experiences for you. It would be hard on your own. What support do you have in place?

Hi @Mystic1658, welcome

@Former-Member, @AussieGirl raise a good point here that they experience similar effects following trauma. Although we havent discussed what traumatic experience everyone has had, the responses to trauma are simialr despite the traumatic event experienced.

Given that these responses are somewhat universal, what sorts of strategies have been used to cope with these effects? They can be either helpful or unhelpful

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NikNikSenior Contributor16 Aug 2016, 7:31 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How do you cope with trauma? // 16 Aug, 7pm AEST

Hi all,

Thank you all so far for your contributions, questions and openness.

I just want to flag, if you are feeling triggered or feel that this conversation is causing more distress than help - please listen to those instincts and take care of yourself.

If things continue to escalate, it's important to reach out for help.

Lifeline: 13 11 14 or crisis chat

Suicide call back: 1300 659 467 or crisis counselling

Nik

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