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Thanks for your Pansexual prompt @Snowie Since you've just had to research it - so did I.

Yep, I think I now have a better understanding.

I think I've heard of Pansexual before - yet there are so many new terms, these days.

I get left behind (a bit)....

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@Schitzo  🧡

sorry I missed your post. I had a look, thank you.

Feeling overwhelmed. Somehow I keep thinking that I've been living a lie. Confusing. 
How was your day? x

Hi @Snowie @Adge 

I didn't have to research pan sexual, but I agree that there are so many terms nowadays. I'm really happy when people are able to choose their sexuality and gender identity with a term & their pronouns. For me it's like a new language I don't understand. Maybe some day.

Take care x

Hi @Jynx 

Hope you're well 🌈

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One of my favourites 🌈

Am not too shabby @Former-Member   thanks for asking.

Re: terms and labels, I know there's so so many different words and it can definitely be hard to keep up. To me it's sort of like... the immense wealth of differing experiences humans can have makes it necessary sometimes to develop a whole bunch of new terms to try to describe those experiences. For some whose experience doesn't seem to match that of the majority to then be able to find a word that describes them (and thus, other people who share their experiences) is a really good thing. Can definitely be pretty befuddling for the brain though 

@Jynx  Befuddle is an understatement 🤣

I know what I don't feel, that's a start. I've excluded female gender identity, or have I? I've excluded female sexual attraction, that's a definite. I struggle with the terminology and I struggle that when I try online support groups, the age groups are young compared to me. I love talking to young people & hearing of their different experiences. I need people to talk about things in my life stages, not necessarily age related, more around life events.

Off topic, but relevant to me: I read a post today. 'Autism is not a processing error, autism is a different operating system.' Some things in this world just don't make sense to me. I'm still trying to find the correct algorithms to 'determine' my gender & sexuality. I'm also researching the equation for solving the worlds mental health problems. And I'm not kidding (even if I don't expect a break through anymore) 🤪

That's it for now. My head is hurting. 

@Former-Member Oh I really like that - I have ADHD and the way I interpret and understand the world is just different, so that analogy really resonates with me.

And I know what you mean about the terminology... I'm asexual but I do experience romantic attraction. And I'm attracted almost entirely to women and femme-presenting people, but not allll the time. Does that mean I'm homoromantic? Well no because I'm not a woman myself, I'm nonbinary and genderfluid. How am I supposed to codify my attraction to any particular gender if it relies on my own gender being a necessary ingredient? I mean it's too much of a mouthful to say "Hi I'm Jynx, I'm nonbinary-genderfluid-greyasexual-homoromantic/panromantic-androgynous-andIdon'tknowwhatelse" wow I'm tired just writing it!

It's tough that you haven't found folks to connect with who have shared experiences re: life stages. I don't really know where to point to find that - except maybe to give the Qlife helpline a buzz and see if they know of any support groups that have what you're after? 

Otherwise there's always the ARCVIC LGBTQAI+ Support Group that runs every two weeks 

@Former-Member I'm off for the evening but thanks for tagging me in, hope you have a lovely Sat night 

Absolutely love your intro @Jynx   especially the last part 😁 I find it hard to laugh about it sometimes, but it is a conundrum. I had to google greyasexual, to be honest, I don't understand the terminology. In the end we're all humans.

I looked up lgbt+ vocabulary just now. As in your example, if there are other variables how can you describe in a word what you feel? The one word that just resonated with me is actually agender. I understand the social constructs of binary genders, but I don't think I could ever fathom what that really meant - I'm not sure if this is because of me being on the autism spectrum though. I was gender non-confirming from early childhood & didn't follow female role models. So I might be aeiou, atypical, agender? I let that settle before I think about anything else 😂

I'm glad you wrote about your experience, it helps me understand. I'm usually worried to talk about labels, as I don't want to offend people by being ignorant. 

Thanks for the info, I'll have a look at the ARCVIC support group - if they let me in 😞  I found a face-to-face 40+ support group before covid, but it was far away and then it got cancelled. 

🙃 trying to be more sociable 🙃 if I learnt one thing during my last admission (and I learnt more than one thing) is that I feel better when I'm more connected. It's more a reminder than learning, I forget a lot & coupled with low self worth a recipe for disaster 🤯

Have a good night x