childhood emotional neglect

@destructive no not currently seeing this lady but I get a lot of emails from her with lots of useful information. I also have some of her books too.

Hello @AEB

I experienced serious childhood neglect and relate to those 4 issues, as did my siblings. Thanks for posting them so clearly. Most of the uselful therapy I have had to seek out myself in libraries, including top medical libraries, before the world of the internet. Now of course there is a lot of material online, as well as this new evolving way to meet others, share and exchange info.

Welcome

Cheers Apple

@AEB, wondering if you are talking about Emotionally and Mentally abused which i was from my faher when i was growing up ?????

@Shaz51 Yeah that would probably be very similar as well

Yes it has affected my life @AEB , @Appleblossom , @destructive

Even though mum and I left when I was 11 but since living in a s.mall country town I was rejected continually by my father until he passed away when I was 42

@Shaz51 Yeah that’s really rough. There is a questionnaire by a dr Jonice Webb you should be able to find easily and see if you are suffering from childhood emotional neglect.

It actually just helps helps a little bit to put a name to all these things we are feeling and to know that it’s actually really normal and that you can be healed from this

@AEB @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @destructive

I was abused by both parents. On every level except sexusl. Speaking just about the make species of supposed "caregivers" (can't say the F word) I don't feel I can ever fully heal from him. I hope that for others here this is possible. It went on till I was 30 before I cut him out of my life indefinitely.

He certainly did a very good job of making me feel like an inconvenience if that was his intention. Intention or not, it's how I felt. By the time he got around to saying, I love you, it was too late. Too much damage. Too hard to even believe it. I still believe to this day, he never really loved me. I suppose out of the copious memories I have, is my mother telling me in front of him at 12 years old that "your father does not love you", in front of him. He never said a word. That memory alone says it all. I've never gotten over it and possibly never will.

The fact is, I don't actually love him either. There's nothing to love. I feel empty and nothing.

Anyhow, I hope for all of you, healing is possible. Some people just can't.

@Powderfinger I’m sorry that has happened to you. I completely agree you probably won’t fully heal for that but there are parts that you can heal from this. There is a lot of work to be done but it is possible.

@Appleblossom So you have probably already come across dr jonice Webb. She really hits the issues head on with identifying what I’m feeling and why. She is playing a huge part in my current healing journey. She also has a books called “running on empty - overcoming your childhood neglect” and then there is a book 2. I’ve only just started reading these.