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P12Senior Contributor
Is there any support available for people experiencing long term grief? As far as I know, the prevailing methods assume that a person was originally free of grief and will therefore return to a free state with time. But what if a person was born in a state of grief? What can help me feel better as I face this situation?
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P12Senior Contributor
By "born into a state of grief" I meant a naturally occurring or inherited psychological state or personality trait that causes similar distress to traditional grief, which is caused by a traumatic life event. I hoped grief management techniques could be applied to the former case. In each case, an individual is under distress because they have a vision of a more rewarding life but are unable to achieve it.
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Eve7Senior Contributor
I understand @Former-Member Sometimes my arms physically ache wanting to hold my baby again.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Former-Member
Just saw you had tagged me back in November, when my computer broke, and had a couple months offline. Hope you are doing alright.
Was thinking about grief and looking for somewhere to share this vid
Make Peace with your Grief and See where it Leads You
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Just can't 'go there's 😢
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Self Care first @Former-Member Its only worth looking at it if it will benefit you. I do not want to retraumatise you. I am working on the "letting it go" re grief from those passed. I just tagged you in case you wondered why I had not responded back in November. I was walking on the wild side and an airy garden fairy back then. Is that even possible?? Aaaah the things we do.
Take Care
Apple
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Hsha @Appleblossom
Your funny.
It's all good.
Just tried to ring
SCB but chickened out and hung up. Tried the 'chat' for a while but very robotic and repetative. There really is no help for this. Trying so hard to ride it out. Brain not working too good. I believe I'm starved of love, and affection too long = death. Kinda fell in another hole. Nobody notices. It's not real, or is it. Ha, talking rubbish. Not at risk tonight, so...
what you up to? I've gone to bed, watch Home &Away and hopefully sleep better.
'get a life' screaming at me... condemning... Don't know what's happened this time. Doesn't take much. It's a foggy slump this one. Cant find the way up. Trying not to stress about it, hope it passes soon. Often get down in May so hope it's not that hitting early. Winter Blues or something. You doin' ok?
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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member,
It sounds like you are doing everything you can to stay safe tonight, and we are sitting with you. It's hard to not get the response you were looking for when you reach out for help, and I am sorry to hear that it wasn't what you needed in the moment.
We really appreciate you letting us know you are safe right now. Going to bed and watching home and away sounds like a good plan 💙 We are here if you need to chat
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