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Lee71Senior Contributor
Don't know How to tag by tahts ok. Km so very tired, but still sleep avoids me. I never feel safe, not in my surrounding, paranoia how the list goes on . Only neescti this for tthe next few days.
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Lee71Senior Contributor
@NatureLover wrote:
@Lee71 wrote:@NatureLover will have to at some point explain this fortress thing to you today. So it makes some sense. I m sure it makes no sense to Any one. Maybe when I am done at the doctors.
I'd really like that, Lee 🙂
@Lee71
Soon as I am done in the doctor. My appt is in 7 mins
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
I'm glad you're enjoying the warmth 🙂 Yes, it will be a bugger going outside again.
I'm glad you have ear plugs. Sounds like you really need them, at the boarding house 😞
@Lee71
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Lee71Senior Contributor
@NatureLover I'm very sensitive to most loud noises, balloons bursting, fireworks any kiud noises.
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
Yes, I am too...it must make it very hard for you, living where you do 😞
@Lee71
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Lee71Senior Contributor
@NatureLoverall done at the doctors and home again trying to warm up, with a coffee. I will make myself go out again shortly to get those videos.
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Lee71Senior Contributor
@NatureLovernow if i can try and explain about my fortress.
It's a place I created a long time ago inside my mind. It's just a simple room, no doors no windows no way for anyone to get in unless you want them too. Inside this room aka fortress you are completely 100% safe from everything and everyone.
The room can contain whatever you like you like, anything that makes you comfortable and feel safe. A fire place and a couch, and a good cup of coffee, whatever works for you. The idea of it was to get to such a relaxed state, physically and mentally almost like dissasociation .
Because of life and outside stresses and noise and what have you I found it hard in the beginning to be able to get to my fortress and stay there and be calm, and above all completely safe. That's the main goal, the calm, and the feeling safe.
So I trained my mind to have a key, or a trigger perhaps, this key instantly transports you to this safe place, completely safe where no one can get in unless you allow them.
The key is a song, in French. It took a lot of practice, now it takes just a few notes and I am there. I understand a little of the song, but didn't getting it translated, because for me it's the key to my fortress. I will share the song with you , and hope what I have said has made sense.
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
Wow, Lee. Am very honoured that you shared that special song, and your fortress refuge, with me. The song is beautiful. I am so, so glad you have your fortress to escape to and be safe in. I'm especially glad that no-one else can get in there. And I think it's brilliant that you came up with a trigger to transport you there.
It does all make sense, and makes me really happy, too, that you've got this fortress. Thank you so much for sharing it. 
@Lee71
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Lee71Senior Contributor
@NatureLover it is a good place to have and the song being the ticket to get in. But it can work for anyone, for you also. You make your own safe sanctuary and have the key, the song transport you there. You've said you love the ocean but can't go there, so maybe that could be your sanctuary the abatahm somg can take you to the beach. Sometimes all we need is that 3 minutes you know. . I know someone else that used to have their safe place as a cabin in the mountains with a song as a trigger to get there, at the time it wasn't the same somg as mine la memoire d Abraham , but it worked and it was actually this person who helped me create my own place.
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Lee71Senior Contributor
@NatureLover
So I am on my way to the beach, I'm thinking even though today is really cold tomorrow would have been too much.
It's chilly as I am walking but not too bad, also gives me a chance to look for photo opportunities like these....
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
Wow! I really like those ones - the colours especially... Thank you 🙂
I am sorry you are chilly, I feel bad, @Lee71
@Lee71 wrote:@NatureLover it is a good place to have and the song being the ticket to get in. But it can work for anyone, for you also. You make your own safe sanctuary and have the key, the song transport you there. You've said you love the ocean but can't go there, so maybe that could be your sanctuary the abatahm somg can take you to the beach.
Thank you 🙂 That is a really good idea. Yes, I would like to imagine myself at the beach on a warm sunny day, with no-one else around.
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