Just diagnosed

Hello to anyone who is listening. After a lifetime of struggling with the basics by whihc l mean the ability to form and keep close relationships friends etc, l have finally been diagnosed with BPD it explains everything but it feels like a death sentence. I wonder if anyone can tell me how they have managed to cope with knowing and experiencing this condition. It seems so cruel to be able to see so clearly what is wrong with me, to know it wasn't my fault and yet to not know what to do about it apart from therapy and how to cope with the excruciating realisation that l have missed out on a life of love and human closeness and can't see that changing into the future. Missing out on what others seem to take for granted.