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I have stopped fighting the fact that I have to be my husbands carer.. There are no other options unfortunately for me. But I feel that I am expected to be a 24/7 nurse taking blood sugar levels and blood pressure at the first sign that my husband is going pass out.. I am so tired that I cant be bothered to have a shower or wash my hair. and I wear my clothes to bed. I have one meal day at dinner time. My husband has a shower lady 3 times a week which is a help.. I spoke to the receptionist at our doctors clinic saying I am struggling and I need nursing help and I was told they dont do that.. I said to my husband tearing up that I think our situation was going to end with the death of one of us and it was going to be me. It is so hard.. I dont like being negative but I feel like I'm losing the strength to keep going on like this. Thank you for letting me say how it is as my friends and family dont know how to help me.
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