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Trying to stay Sane

Trying to stay Sane

Hi all,

I never in my wildest dreams thought I'd be here. In saying that I have had some interactions with some of you and you are all lovely, so thanks for saying hi and making me feel welcome! @Shaz51 @Determined @Maggie @Former-Member @Faith-and-hope @Smc @SoS .

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Re: Trying to stay Sane

Hello @Anastasia

It is with much sadness to know of the present experience of you and your family. Though my Mum was in residential care during her last three years, I was with her each day, so can empathise with your feelings. During the last three days of Mum's life, all that I could do was sit and read while I was with her. Before that I read to her from a series of seven books by the same author.

All that I can offer as a suggestion is something similar. To sit and read, either "out loud", with your Dad, or silently, on your own. You are aware of the inevitable, so occupy yourself in a way that would be meaningful to both of you, as it would have been before. I did not find the reading prevented the feelings that I experienced, the sadness and the tears, but rather was a means of filling the additional time in a meaningful way.

With Love and Best Wishes

@HenryX

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Re: Trying to stay Sane

Hi @Anastasia I have been there and it is really traumatic. I can only think of https://griefline.org.au/ but if you have a palliative service coming they should be able to offer you some advice 💖 Here with you.

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Re: Trying to stay Sane

🙏♥️ @Anastasia

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Re: Trying to stay Sane

My darling father is resting now in peace. My heart is in tiny pieces. How lucky am I to have him as my Dad.

I will carry many fond memories for the rest of my days 😭😭💔💔

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Re: Trying to stay Sane

My deepest condolences @Anastasia 💔

I am relieved that your Dad is now at peace, and his loving family can now properly grieve his loss.

Much love to you.

Emelia 🌹

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Oh @Anastasia I am truly sorry. Condolences to you, your dear mum and your brother and family
your beautiful dad is now at peace.
No more pain

sending you a loving hug and strength

xxxooo

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Sending you so much love @Anastasia 💙 I’m sure your Dad would agree with me in saying he is the lucky one to have had you as his daughter.

Wrapping you up in my arms and not letting go 💙💙💙💙💙🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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@Anastasia wrote:

My darling father is resting now in peace.


Oh thank goodness, @Anastasia . Thank goodness he's not suffering any more.

I am sorry however at the same time that you've lost your dear Dad 😞

I wonder if you might be able to get some trauma counselling for what you've been through, watching your Dad pass slowly and painfully?

I am sending wishes for you, your Mum, your brother, and your sons, as you grieve. 💔

Much 💚 and hugs...

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Re: Trying to stay Sane

Hello @Anastasia

Condolences to you and your family on the passing of your Dad.

I am pleased that you have good memories of the love and experiences that you have shared.

Love, Care and Sympathy

@HenryX

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I am sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you & your family

❤️

Take gentle care @Anastasia

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