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Ame96Casual Contributor17 June 2020, 6:20 am AEST

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Hi all, I'm new and not sure if this is the right place to post but oh well.

Ive had a very traumatic childhood involving domestic violence and I've now got depression, anxiety and ptsd due to that. I guess I'm just wondering if there is anyone else that has been through dv and still get flashbacks, or still do things now that you had to do before? Eg- I had to ask if I could eat or if I wanted to sit down etc and even though it's been years, I still feel like I have to ask my partner if I can eat or sit next to him, still apologise if I get bad vibes or if he places a plate on the table too hard…

sorry, like I said, I'm new to this so I'm not sure if this is where or how I start a convo

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Ame96Casual Contributor23 June 2020, 1:33 pm AEST

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@PrezJ

I've lived with dv for 20 years so it's reeeally hard to unlearn. I'm here if you ever want to talk about anything! No judgement at all because I know how hard it is to go through these things.

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PrezJCasual Contributor23 June 2020, 1:46 pm AEST

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Yeah I still struggle some days with the need to please everyone - constantly apologising for little things that just don't need to be apologised for ! I always feel not good enough - not a good wife, mother, sister, friend etc. Alot of guilt. Some days are harder than others thats for sure.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor23 June 2020, 2:01 pm AEST

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Hi @Ame96 , welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

@Ame96 wrote:
I did not and still don't have any support for anything. I've been wanting to see a shrink but can not afford it so I just keep everything in.

If you want to go to your GP and ask for a referral to a psychologist, you can get up to 10 subsidised appointments with a psychologist per year. That might give you some extra support to deal with your PTSD and flashbacks. Do you have a supportive GP?

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 June 2020, 7:23 pm AEST

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@Ame96

If you have a chat to your gp, they can write you a mental health care plan. This will allow you to get the medicare rebates so the fee you pay will be very much reduced for up to 10 sessions.

1800 respect offers counselling online or on the phone for those who have experiences abuse or domestic violence as well.

i would maybe also do some research in your area for a womens health clinic. In my area there is a clinic that has gps, nurses, social workers, and also counsellors plus more all that are free of any costs (or some services are very low cost). it might be worth taking a look around and seeing if there is one in your area or one that you might be willing to go to.

As a result of trauma i also experience flashbacks, nightmares, panic attacks, depression and unfortunatly much more so i can relate to what your going through

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