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What helps you feel safe?

Jane19Contributor08 June 2020, 10:14 am AEST

What helps you feel safe?

I've recently realised that a lot of my anxiety & mental health issues stem from feeling unsafe within my own body/self due to past trauma.

I avoid so many things & my coping strategies aren't always helpful (constantly checking my heart rate etc, sitting all day because I'm scared to stand up/move, not going out, keeping food in my pockets, overly depending on others for reassurance)

So I'm looking for new ways to cope with this. What are some ways that help you to feel safe when you're struggling to believe it??

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7fresiasCasual Contributor08 June 2020, 8:35 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

Avoiding things is an all to easy escape and be alone does not really help.

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Unknown userMember08 June 2020, 8:41 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

Hey @7fresias , Welcome to the SANE forums! It's great to have you here and thanks for telling the community a bit about yourself. I'm sure the forum members will be able to offer you support, information and connection I'm the moderator this evening. Feel free to ask the SANE forum team or the members if you need help with how to use the forum. You might like to check out the Guidelines as they can be a pretty useful in understanding how it all works https://saneforums.org/t5/help/faqpage#community-guidelines. Take care. Rainforest

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor08 June 2020, 8:42 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

Hi @7fresias and welcome to the forums.

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7fresiasCasual Contributor08 June 2020, 8:50 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

Do I state how I am feeling and ask for advice?

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GwynnSenior Contributor08 June 2020, 9:09 pm AEST

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Something else that might help is mindfulness meditation - being in the present moment without judgement. With a lot of practice, it's possible to calm yourself down when you're upset by doing this. Being afraid is paralysing in itself - the litany of fear is useful to me.

I will not fear, fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear and allow it to pass through me, and turn the inner eye to follow its path. Where the fear has gone, there will be nothing.
I remain.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor08 June 2020, 9:43 pm AEST

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Hi again @7fresias

You are welcome to tell us how you are feeling and ask for advice.

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7fresiasCasual Contributor08 June 2020, 10:27 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

A sensitive issue so well understood and immediately with this post my mind is reacting, thank you.

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7fresiasCasual Contributor08 June 2020, 10:30 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

I am feeling misunderstood, outed by loved ones, alone, sad, depressed and thinking what is life all about and is it worth such grief and sadness.

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7fresiasCasual Contributor08 June 2020, 10:58 pm AEST

Re: What helps you feel safe?

Sleeping time now, thank you for having me as a newbie in this forum.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor09 June 2020, 7:09 am AEST

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You're welcome @7fresias ..... 🌷

It sounds really tough for you at the moment, and those feelings are hard to sit with. Please keep taking steps to look after you with as much self-care as you can .... especially the little things, making sure we choose things we like in the everyday. It's only a small thing, but I started to paint my nails with colours that bring me joy. Getting enough sleep is important too .... coping tools for when others are not being caring enough. Think about how a best would care for you, and then do that for yourself ..... give yourself the time and the space you need ..... the forum member are here to listen, share tips and advice, and we care because we live it too.

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