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MI + cancer = 😵😵😵
Mutual support = yay
@Former-Member , @RMG perhaps you would like to share here, you are not alone. My husband with bipolar ii was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in March this year. He had surgery, came home, was readmitted to hospital as he got an infection. He is now home and I am struggling to get a routine going.
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Travel went ok, just took my time as with all the pain meds on board Mr D is too tired to drive. He continues to be emotional about everything and at times it can be a little wearing as he cannot see that both grief and joy can coexist - he hardly ever smiles.
Mr D has similar feelings to you, I only noticed he had what is probably an incisional hernia and another lump around a drain site when he was in hospital when he changed from the gown he had his procedure in. He became very self concious post surgery and puts his t-shirt on in the bathroom after showering as he does not like his scars to be seen. I got the ward doctor to have a look at them, he confirmed my suspicions that an incisional hernia accounts for the lump near his main scar and told us to keep an eye on the other for any changes (I plan on taking a photo of it) but could be fibrosis or scarring.
I view these scars as a mark of survival (especially the ones he has post attempt) but the reality is I don't give them much thought at all and they make no difference to how I feel about Mr D.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
hello and hugs @RMG , @Sophie1 , @Anastasia , @Emelia8 , @Former-Member 
thank you for the update my @Former-Member , been thinking of you and praying for you and mr darcy xxx
@Emelia8, one of our customers is going through what you are going through , we clean her house for her , sending tender hugs my friend
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
Thank you @Shaz51 💗
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AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Hugs @Former-Member
My Dad is self conscious at the moment. Cancer steals so much 😔
Hugs @Emelia8 @Shaz51 @Sophie1 @RMG and all here
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Former-Member even though I have not been on the thread I have been thinking alot about you Darcy as it has been ages since I have seen you. Sending you kind and caring wishes and love. peaxx
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Unknown userMember
Seem to be doing everything slowly these days @Bunniekins and I have got a bit behind catching up with people both online and irl. Did spot that you may have been through a rough patch yourself?
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@Former-Member Thanks Darcy. Im okish. Just take good care of yourself sweetheart. Am here for you always. All you have to do is tag me okay. Love peaxx
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
@Former-Member, thinking of you lots my friend
how are you this weekend xxxxx
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Had a couple of visitors today @Shaz51 Mr Darcy is increasingly tired so only spent a little bit of time with them but I was able to have a nice catch up. Along with the fatigue there has been further weight loss ☹️ and end of life care options are now being raised in discussions with the palliative care team.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Ohhh my @Former-Member
Sending you lots of tender hugs as our neighbors husband went through the same
Spent lots of afternoon and morning tea with them
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