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MI + cancer = 😵😵😵
Mutual support = yay
@Former-Member , @RMG perhaps you would like to share here, you are not alone. My husband with bipolar ii was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in March this year. He had surgery, came home, was readmitted to hospital as he got an infection. He is now home and I am struggling to get a routine going.
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
Thanks @Former-Member ... most of the short term side effects should resolve in a couple of weeks. Then its a matter of ongoing monitoring for the more serious long term side effects such as heart and lung damage. Unlikely, but I am in the at risk category.
The home your mum is going into sounds ideal. Or at least as ideal as possible, under the circumstances of having to go into care.
Dad has had a couple of 2 week respite stays in the home he wants to go into. Was even offered a permanent room about 3 months ago. But he knocked it back at the time, saying he wasnt ready. He wanted to reach his 88th birthday on 5th Dec and spend Christmas at home, before going in. So now he has to wait for another opportunity.
Emelia 🌷
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Unknown userMember
Mr Darcy saw the oncologist today, tumour markers are up, chemo has been stopped.
The focus now will be on palliative care.
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RMGSenior Contributor
Oh dear. So sorry to hear. Hugs and best wishes for you both ❤️
@Former-Member wrote:Mr Darcy saw the oncologist today, tumour markers are up, chemo has been stopped.
The focus now will be on palliative care.
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
@Former-Member 😞💔
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Sophie1Senior Contributor
@Former-Member so sorry to hear this update - sending you all my love and prayers - may you both feel truly held, safe and loved
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Sophie1Senior Contributor
@Former-Member Just checking in to see how you are travelling - thinking of you tonight and hope you find something nice to do this weekend in the in between moments
here is a nice bunch of flowers just for you
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AnastasiaSenior Contributor
Hugs @Former-Member 😔🤗💞
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Unknown userMember
Had a busy week with extra travel, Mr D had a nerve block done on Friday and we should know in a week or so whether this will be successful at giving him pain relief.
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@Emelia8
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
Hi dear @Former-Member . Been thinking of you and wondering how Mr Darcy was getting alone. So thank you for the update.
I hope the nerve block will be successful at providing adequate pain relief for Mr Darcy. How about you ... are you coping okay with all the extra travel and the extra care that Mr Darcy needs now?
Thanks for the pic and for your thoughts for me. I feel just like that picture ... cancer diagnosis, surgery, radiation and ongoing oral cancer pills definitely take a toll. I feel old, tired, worn out, hacked up, distorted, scarred, unlovable. But yes, I know my little Holly dog still loves me. And she has just recovered from recent surgery herself ... we are a great pair, my little girl 🐶 and I.
Emelia 😊💕
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