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Self-care - Why can it be so hard?

Unknown userMember24 Apr 2020, 12:00 pm AEST

Self-care - Why can it be so hard?

Hello lovely forumites. I'm helping out the Community Managers with some new threads and I thought it might be useful to talk about why self-care can be so hard at times.

Self-care is anything we purposely do to support our health and wellbeing, and a lot of us struggle with it. For some people it's not having much space in the day. For others there are thoughts that they don't deserve it, or that they shouldn't need it, or that it's self-indulgent...

Does anyone else experience this? What do you do to start to tune into that self-compassion and self-care?

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AdgeSenior Contributor24 June 2021, 5:42 pm AEST

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Thanks @Shaz51 A very good Self-Care Checklist...

Adge

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Posie1Contributor27 June 2021, 4:04 pm AEST

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Hi mate That sounds amazing. im into dance now and kickboxing, i love having a discipline and committing 5 days a week to ,now. im in such a good mental happy place. now. excited for the future and glowing! hbu?kp it up 🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor07 July 2021, 4:39 pm AEST

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that is good @Posie1

Hello @Former-Member , @Adge , @Determined , @Jacques , @Appleblossom , @Tay

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AdgeSenior Contributor07 July 2021, 5:57 pm AEST

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Yes Self-Care can be Very Hard - Good Title for this Thread @Shaz51

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DeterminedSenior Contributor07 July 2021, 7:47 pm AEST

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Like the self care list @Shaz51

Self care is a challenge. Over committing is a big drain on self care. Student success advisor I link in with at the university does a lot of work with me on scheduling and task lists to help combat this. I have learned that it is the sum of little things rather than big things that drain resources the most. Writing including everything down down to something as simple as breakfast helps to say no.

Common theme I keep getting reminded is that if the boat is sinking put your own life vest on first then help everyone else with theirs.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor07 July 2021, 7:53 pm AEST

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Common theme I keep getting reminded is that if the boat is sinking put your own life vest on first then help everyone else with theirs. --- so important @Determined :

i find that getting the right balance is hard

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AdgeSenior Contributor07 July 2021, 9:24 pm AEST

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"if the boat is sinking put your own life vest on first then help everyone else with theirs. --- so important"

Excellent Point @Determined @Determined It's a long while since I've heard that Saying...

Good Reminder.

Cannot Save anyone, if you're going to Sink yourself - So put that Lifejacket on 1st.

I'm a Non-Swimmer, by the way - So I really do need mine on 1st.

Some others can Swim very well, not me...

Adge

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Posie1Contributor10 July 2021, 2:09 pm AEST

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This post was awesome! Thanks it works and its true 🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor28 July 2021, 4:47 pm AEST

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@Former-Member

soo glad to see you ,

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cakie181New Contributor02 Nov 2021, 2:03 pm AEDT

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Does anyone else have difficulties in showering often?

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