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Tough Times

Lee82Senior Contributor23 Apr 2020, 1:27 pm AEST

Tough Times

I thought I'd open up this discussion for anyone going through a rough time at the moment and want to get some extra support.
I am struggling a lot at the moment dealing with a range of things. One thing a struggle with is Anxiety. This is something I deal with everyday. I wake up with it every morning and fall asleep (when I sleep) with it every night. Some days are worse than other days. Distractions play a big part in coping with it daily. At the moment being stuck at home schooling my kids is my biggest distraction. It helps most of the time however sometimes it can be a real struggle to stay present and calm. We as a family try to go for a walk everyday. We take our family dog with us. Another distraction for me is cooking but this can be a challenge as I struggle with motivating myself but when I get into it I create some nice things. Today my 8year old son and I made oat based banana and chic chip muffins. 😋😋

I hope everyone's day has been a good day filled with self care and motivation.
@Former-Member @Angels333 @Sans911 @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @Snowie @eth @outlander @Former-Member @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope @BlueBay

And anyone else who I have missed. All are welcome to join.

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Sans911Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 5:41 pm AEST

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@Former-Member - I've been sitting on it for a little while but what @Lee82 did last night has been worried for her safety and survival. And you're not responsible for what happened nor are you responsible for her safety. She is responsible for those things or she needs to find a way to get professional support to maintain her safety and survival. Because she's worthy of being here. As are you. And I certainly don't want your friendship to stop, or for you to stop being supportive and caring about each other. As I said, it's lovely to see it. Just take care of yourselves and your lives as well. ♥️ ♥️ 💜 💜

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Lee82Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 5:42 pm AEST

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I need you to talk to me about what has been going on for you because I have been crazy worried as you have never been this quite about what's happening before. But I completely understand under the recent circumstances you don't feel you can. Just know I am here to listen.
I love you so much babe and it hurts my heart that you are hurting.
@Former-Member

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Lee82Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 5:43 pm AEST

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I hear you @Former-Member thank you for your concern. It won't happen again

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Unknown userMember16 May 2020, 5:51 pm AEST

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Thanks @Former-Member
I'll come back later also. ❤️

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Sans911Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 6:07 pm AEST

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@Lee82 - I think you have misunderstood a lot of what I'm trying to say. And I'm sorry I'm bringing this up on a day when you're physically and mentally under par. So maybe save that post (and this) and re-read at a time when you're stronger, and it will likely make more sense.

I'm not asking you to keep your distance or even to leave the forums. I can't make you leave. Only the mods or yourself can do that. And I certainly would love you to stay.

I just want you and Izzy to find a balance between being on the forums, and having a life outside the forums. I was the same for a few months when I came here. I was here every day, all day. I felt I was missing out on things happening. I wanted support all the time. But it isn't always healthy to be here. It can suck you in. Then all of a sudden your whole life is living in the distress of your mental illness.

I know you need lots of support right now, and you deserve that from Izzy, and others. And I don't want to feel that you need to hold back on posting about whatever is happening for you. That's not my intention, and I never expressed that to either of you. I'm just very concerned that there are times when you need to reach outwards for professional help, instead of here. None of us are trained to help you in a crisis Lee. The forums are very limited to be able to help you in crisis situations. Izzy did an amazing job supporting you yesterday with your fb but when you became suicidal she couldn't pull you back from the edge. You have to find that strength in yourself to reach out & ask for help to maintain the will to live. And I know that's not easy at all.

I want to see you survive Lee. I really do. You are so worthy of that, of having an amazing life worth living. You said yourself last night you couldn't stop yourself from trying to shut down the pain. I understand that feeling very well. I've been there and nearly not survived either. It's worrying for everyone, including Izzy, but all of almost held our breaths until you popped up again.

Please don't veiw these posts to you both as negative and as a criticism.I know in the head space your in they might feel like that. I can see from an observers position what is happening. I've been in these forums long enough as well as being in the mental health services and having some professional knowledge and experience to see an issue. And if I didn't care about you both I wouldn't say anything. But I do care. A lot. OK, I think I've said enough.

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Unknown userMember16 May 2020, 7:16 pm AEST

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Just took sometime out as I was getting into overwhelm and trust me I have enough feelings without adding that one to the list. In light of what has been happening here and outside of here for me, I am finally considering hospital treatment. A very sweet friend pointed some things out to me tonight and I find myself questioning my ability to control my emotions/reactions and self harm. The major issue in this is I have tried and failed twice to leave this world so it's coming to the point of weather I want to live or not. I don't want to live in my hell, I can't see a way out or really a reason to find a way out anymore. Here in the last week I have come too f***ing close to lossing two friends, I am grateful that they both are reasonably ok right now. I am lost and I don't know where to turn anymore, my coping mechanisms are hurting me, they keep me tied to this MH fight they are not helping me move through anything. I find myself out of options go to hospital or leave this world 😞

This post was meant to be about what I am going through but I think it is long enough. I will post a little later. Thank you for your support guys. You are a wonderful bunch of friends and I count myself blessed to know each of you.

@Lee82 @Sans911 @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @outlander @NatureLover @HopefulWarrior @Former-Member I know I should be tagging more but brain just not working.

@Lee82 , Love you 3000 gorgeous

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 7:22 pm AEST

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@Former-Member im a little short on what to say but im sitting here with you knowing that sort of decision isn't easy and having this sort of realisation can be confronting too.
Proud of you for taking notice of what you might need 💜💛

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Zoe7Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 7:22 pm AEST

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That is an amazing example of self questioning and self-awareness @Former-Member.

The forums are here to support each other but it is ultimately ourselves that need to be able to make those decisions and do what we can for ourselves, our well-being and our own mental health.

You have showed the ability to look after yourself over the last couple of days - when to take time out, when you cannot provide that support because of the personal situation you are in and above all know that what you are doing right now is not working - I not only applaud you but am very proud of you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 7:25 pm AEST

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@Lee82 🤍💙

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Unknown userMember16 May 2020, 7:32 pm AEST

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Good evening @Former-Member

It sounds as if you have been having a terrible time. I am so sorry to learn that you have had such a desperate struggle to gain some control. I think you decision to go to hospital makes a lot of sense and if it means you will be safe then do not hesitate to take that path.

Will you be okay until you are able to organise your admission? If you are in crisis now please phone 000 or a crisis helpline.

Take special care Izzy,

Whitehawk

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