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I thought I'd open up this discussion for anyone going through a rough time at the moment and want to get some extra support. I am struggling a lot at the moment dealing with a range of things. One thing a struggle with is Anxiety. This is something I deal with everyday. I wake up with it every morning and fall asleep (when I sleep) with it every night. Some days are worse than other days. Distractions play a big part in coping with it daily. At the moment being stuck at home schooling my kids is my biggest distraction. It helps most of the time however sometimes it can be a real struggle to stay present and calm. We as a family try to go for a walk everyday. We take our family dog with us. Another distraction for me is cooking but this can be a challenge as I struggle with motivating myself but when I get into it I create some nice things. Today my 8year old son and I made oat based banana and chic chip muffins. 😋😋
I hope everyone's day has been a good day filled with self care and motivation. @Former-Member@Angels333@Sans911@Shaz51@Appleblossom@Snowie@eth@outlander@Former-Member@Zoe7@Faith-and-Hope@BlueBay
And anyone else who I have missed. All are welcome to join.
I want to broach something and forgive me if I upset either of you. This comes from a place of love and concern.
@Lee82 - I'm really concerned about your safety, which has been a problem for some time now, and last night you obviously got to a point where nothing was going to stop you from stopping the pain. Are you sure that a hospital admission might be worthwhile for you to help you with all these overwhelming emotions, flashbacks and triggers? There is only so much @Former-Member and others can offer here in the forums in the way of support, and the forums really aren't the greatest place to be in a crisis. None of us forum members are qualified professionally to help you, and this isn't the right environment to be able to help someone with the intense experiences you are having.
And this bit might upset you both but I wouldn't raise it if I wasn't concerned. You two have forged possibly one of the strongest, most lovely friendships I've seen here in the forums. It's nice you have each other to lean on. But I feel it also is a bit dangerous for you both, as you heavily rely on each other to get you through each day. That's pulling you both away from life outside the forums, and possibly hindering both of you from working towards being stronger and safer, and feeling more stable and able to cope with the upheavals of your mental health, and life in general.
We all need a break from the forums because otherwise our whole focus just becomes our mental illness. And perpetuates the distress that we are under. And while you both have taken the advice and guidance to spread yourselves around the forum, you still largely gravitate back to each other. It's like when 2 people in a relationship are both unwell mentally, that bounces off each other and they get a little stuck in circles of distress, triggers and not moving forward because they are both vulnerable and have trouble maintaining safe, healthy boundaries.
I have a great deal of admiration and respect for you both. Your incredible women who are courageous, smart and have kind, compassionate hearts. I only want the best for you both, and to see you move forwards towards having a life worth living. And then sharing those wins and joys with everyone here in the forums.
Much love 😍 Sans
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Unknown userMember
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Worry tag game on again. Tag I'm it. 🤪
Are you ok? Can you please even support this post so I know babe. I am sorry if my reply before has hurt you in anyway, I was honouring our promise to all be 100% honest about how we are feeling.
I will be here when you want to talk to me again. @Lee82 I am sorry babe
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Lee82Senior Contributor
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I feel like you have given up on me
@Former-Member
and I deserve that. please understand in the moment It was all about stopping the pain and torture
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Unknown userMember
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@Former-Member
Yes I see. I jumped over thread to try and understand. I am feeling my through once again.
Been a long time away.
And yes it is nice to express freely.
In response it did feel odd but they picked up on my distance and refrain from joining in.
I haven't quite safe to keep a journal. In past it was read and mis-read. Not in current rsp, precious one. However it left a lasting impression of holding feelings close to my chest.
I plan on a quiet evening with my youngest. Partner already asleep. Will take sleeping tablet to ensure I sleep and not wake. I'm pretty sure I shall. But I feel so behind with my work.
Thank you very much for your support. 🙂
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Unknown userMember
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@Sans911 , while I am upset about what you posted it's only because I see an element of truth there. Thank you for caring so much to speak up even though we certainly don't want to hear it. You really are a true friend. ❤️
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Unknown userMember
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Sorry I have some typos. It reads a little odd. *previous not *precious A few more. But that stuck out as worst! Lol
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Unknown userMember
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Never @Lee82 that will never happen.
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Unknown userMember
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Hi @Lee82
I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling today and feel that a member has given up on you. I just want to reassure you that nobody on the forum has given up on you, not the forum members and not the SANE team. We are all here for you and we all share the same hope that you are able to get some relief from your pain. Please look to support off the forums too Lee. You may need to speak or chat with a 24 hours help line. You deserve to get the support you need today and tomorrow.
Look after yourself
Whitehawk
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Unknown userMember
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Enjoy your evening with your youngest lovely. I will check in with you soon @Former-Member
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Lee82Senior Contributor
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I'm so sorry @Sans911 I hear what you are saying and I'm so sorry it has turned out this way. I came to this forum in hope that I would find some support as I really don't have that outside my MH team and I found so much more. I never meant to cause anyone pain or stress and I am deeply sorry if I have. I will keep my distance as much as I can and not post too much about what is going on for me but I CANNOT leave this forum completely because I care a lot about a lot of people on here and yes especially @Former-Member I need to know everyday she is doing ok. I will not leave her. So unless I am for whatever reason kicked off the forum I will stick around and do my best to support rather than express what's going on for me. thank you for your concern @Sans911 and also for your help lately.
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