QUOTES THAT SETTLE MY MIND

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@Former-Member Francis of Assissi is one of my role models .... except for rolling around in the icy winter ... cos he took off his clothes as his dad was a wealthy merchant.... lol ... my dad had different qualities ... lol

@Faith-and-Hope

I am SO GLAD you posted that.

I can perform .. it is drilled in.

I actually do not like the "fake it til you make it" quote that some people love

as I see a lot of problems with it ... that may be being emotionally pedantic or OCD of me

See it for my students ... not just personal ... sets up unrealistic thinking and behaviour ... sets up and justifies denial ... encourages brashness as opposed to integrity etc etc

I didnt challenge it ... as didnt want to be a spoil sport

Your quote is a good balance

@Former-Member @Appleblossom

A very valuable lesson I have learned - just posted on another thread for Tawney - is that politeness can be used as an authentic shield in most social circumstances.

Its something you are both already employing, but it is not something fake, it's a well-chosen privacy barrier. Sometimes other people will use it with you, not in a vindictive or mean way, but just because there is some sort of limit there for them.

Think about the myriad of different legitimate reasons someone might need to put up a bit of a screen -

Being unable to express, or perhaps process warmth towards others.

Surviving trauma and protecting against triggers.

Suffering grief they are unwilling to reveal or express.

Not having the emotional reserves to be chatty.

Not understanding social conventions.

Etc, etc, etc

Politeness is enough to keep the social currents moving. It's not a fake screen ... you can be very genuinely polite, and caring enough to offer all the basics of interaction.

You control it and can raise it or lower it as you choose, and raise it again quickly if people misbehave and offend you, without having to do an all-or-nothing cutting them out of your life .... very helpful with prickly or awkward family and in-laws .... and helps you to remember that their behaviour belongs to them, not you. Screen them off when they're being difficult.

Works for me anyway, and they all know that uber-polite me is still me .... and these days they don't like being screened off, and usually behave, sometimes even warmly .... 😏

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