Hi CherryBomb,
In relation to the stigma of lables, I feel that we need to remember that we the patients are people & not illnesses. Nobody goes around for example saying 'Hi I'm Lisa & I'm asthma' or 'Hi I'm arthritis'. Whilst the community at large has become more open to discussions about mental health, it is still common to receive 'suck it up' or 'pull yourself together' if you honestly answer any questions about how you're feeling. I think that being proactive in researching your symptoms & finding a psych professional who actually listens to what you're saying is a huge step toward getting better. I also agree with another contributor, that the Family Court system, and other professionals, choose what they want to acknowledge & forget to look at the entire individual but only their 'worrying diagnosis'.
I'm unsure whether I'm using the correct language here, but whilst we continue to lable ourselves, others will too. This flaw or habit is not limited to our peers, but also to the community & professionals at large. There are many illnesses which are treated whole of life, yet there's no stigma attached. The more the community & professionals are educated to the reality of mental illness & indeed many 'invisible illness' the less stigma will be attached. The only way this can happen is if there are some of us willing to speak out & also, if those of our peers who use their diagnosis as a cop-out or excuse for bad behaviour don't.
If we are not there for each other, how are we ever going to expect the wider community to understand. It doesn't matter what we discuss amongst ourselves if the wider community, professional and otherwise, doesn't get the message. Whilst we may very well be the ground breakers here to try to make or promote a change in attitude and approach to mental health diagnosis & societal acceptance, if we're unable to overcome our own shame, we will never be able to reach this goal.
If we as a community are unable to hold our heads high & show that we are not what widely views imply (Gothica, Freddy Kruger type people for example), how can we expect those not living with mental illness to understand? If we don't allow our neighbours and friends and the world at large actually see what's going on with us at all levels, as hard as it is to show, how will acceptance ever be had?
The more widely promoted forums are, the more of us who know about each other (not necessarily personally), the more of us (like the HIV stigma in the 80s) are open and willing to talk publicly to the widers community with a true understanding and examples of fighting and living with our various diagnoses, the easier it will become for those with current and future mental health (sanity) challeges.
It is important to note, that we also need to remember that we are people first, try to focus on the parts of ourselves and our lives that are successful, and not allow ANYONE the opportunity to define us by our diagosis.
Whilst a bit long winded, I hope this made sense.
Cheers, Lisa_m