Can I do that job and still get the care I need?

Hi @catladybookworm

I've never been able to get full time employment.

Right now I work 3 days a week and get $500 a week, which I think is really good for me.

I reapplied for a full time job with the local main employer in my town because they said they needed people, but as always they never respond to my applications.

I have always had doubts on every job I ever done. Even my current job, I didn't think they'd employ me. Initially I was doing 5 days a week but then asked for 4 days a week, but even that was too much for me, so I asked for 3 days a week and they so 'no problem.'

I sometimes want to quit my job but I feel guilty about all the girls here, who do similar to what I do, if I quit, I think it would be unfare on them.

Thanks for replying NNY!

I think it's great that you have a job. When I was in paid work I often had doubts about my abilities and yet my job was an important source of self-identity and pride. It also got me out of the house, interacting with people which was ultimately good for me. I only quit because my dad needed someone to care for him as he has Parkinson's disease and my mum, who had been caring for him, passed away.

Thanks again for your comments.

Hey, literally just signed up to reply to this. I have just as of 2 days ago been dissmissed due to serve misconduct, after an almost 2 years striaght of 81 hours a fortnight. No way in hell could I manage that and all my never ending crisis moments. I had no life, I achieved my own life goal to obtain a full time position and never have i felt less secure in a workplace, and fulltimes ment to provide security. Anyway, if you love it go own at it, if its a temporary fling with an idea hell give it a go at least. Im a, farm hand, aged care, kitchen, laundry, abittor, small goods factory, dairy, cafe all rounder, and I wouldnt change a thing. Btw diagnosis BPD undiagnosed until 18months ago, around an abortion, and still got that full time title, add in the workplace harassment, and trauma carried from the last 8 jobs in 6 months and moved between 4 towns

Hi @Kottafly

Welcome to the SANE forums!

It's great to have you here and thanks for telling the community a bit about what brought you here. I'm sure the forum members will be able to offer you support, information and connection

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Hey @catladybookworm just following up to see how you've been travelling since posting? Any further thoughts around this job issue? We are always here to listen as a community 🙂

@Kottafly Welcome to you!

Thanks for asking, @Former-Member ! I am not giving work/jobs a lot of thought at the moment, because I am looking after Dad full time. However, I do anticipate that when the time comes, if Dad passes away before I qualify for the aged pension, then I will look for a job again. I am a worrier and I tend to anticipate problems before they occur. Sometimes this allows me to nipp them in the bud but at other times, it just extends the amount of time I spend worrying on things that I cannot think of solutions for. I am 45 so I won't qualify for the aged pension any time soon. However, apart from having Parkinson's disease, Dad is as fit as a fiddle so he could live another 22 years for all I know. He is 78. I'm not sure I want to live on the aged pension, though. Carers pension is pretty bad as it is. So, yes, I am anticipating looking for a job one day, just not any time soon.

Hi @Kottafly ,

Sounds like you've had it rough these past couple of years. I hope you manage to convince the powers that be that it was an unfair dismissal. It can be so hard to get people to understand that MI can make you do things that aren't really your fault.

Hi @catladybookworm @Kottafly @NNY I've walked away from so many jobs I've lost count. I had an unfair dismissal thing 10 years ago, they let me go to their psych, was pointless, not what it was cracked up to be. then they stopped talking after initially offering that I was being bullied, it hadnt even occurred to me. Eventually I applied for centrelink, so they rang employer I guess, then magically I had no job (?) Found out later you have to start a claim within 2 weeks of leaving. I keep patching things over, blocking things out, going to jobs with fluctuating confidence, sometimes little, sometimes more.

Recently am seeing work as means of paying bills only, so I avoid it , but thats not helping either. I am on newstart again and have pension healthcare card, but still have 10 years to pension age, would just work less, less often I guess

So, anyway not getting any help from centrelink in any guise atm, will have to jump up and down a bit more, retraining and doing something that is a bit more sustainable longer term.

Anyway sorry for going on, this is a bit 'real' for me, about to do a few days work for first time in months tomorrow.

Hi @TAB

Is the new work interesting?

its same work I've been doing for years @NNY its more about survival than interest, I have bills to pay. It can be hard, dirty, pressured etc, just have to get through until find something else