autistic adults and the police

Alright, alright GP, I have a few confessions....... I'm actually not a Dermatologist or a Rhodes Scholar @Bunniekins I was pulling your leg a little bit.........

........I'm a Veterinarian Pathologist who diagnoses Kitty Cancer every day............Ok, Ok, OK, maybe I'm not a Veterinarian Pathologist either ......I am a 'manager' though, I manage myself pretty well and I guess you could say I am a small business person too because I run this, here homestead

I think that securing housing for your son is a great idea. It sounds like your eldest boy is well and truly settled on the other side of the world and that he isn't able to check in on him regularly as another support person into the future.

But I think that it is wise to put these measures in as soon as the funds become available because you never know what health or medical obstacles yourself or your ex husband may find yourself in and you won't be capable of helping him forever. None of us are getting any younger Peas. And as you know Pea, MH can change so rapidly, mine most definitely has over the years. Do all the legals and maybe get some advice on how to set it up as a trust to ensure that he always has secure housing. If your other children are upset about the imbalance of what he receives maybe he could write his will that it is inherited by their children if they have any.....I would just definitely get it in place while you and your ex husband are compos mentis.....it's sad that your ex is showing signs of health deterioration. But I suppose he must look at his children and think, well, I got 20/30/40 more years of health compared to them. I think that dementia scares a lot of people, I freak out occasionally but I worry I will get Parkinson's Disease which is on both sides of my family. I have little bursts of anxiety every now and then, but I am hoping that it passes me.

I think that staying in Sydney is what I would do. I don't have any family that lives in regional Australia but I still have friends around there and there just aren't the services or opportunities for people with disabilities. I love big wide open spaces and do get stir crazy here at times, but I know that after all the suffering in childhood that if you don't have good health it is best to stay in the big smoke. I can visit the beach and bush. I think regional Oz would be fine if you had a loving partner, a group of friends and secure employment and housing and not very many health problems. If you don' have many health problems and don't need to see specialists regularly you'd have a ball. And to be honest I have found people in Sydney much more friendly. If you move to smaller cities they are very clicky, people never leave and it is hard to break into their tight little clicks. I guess most people are coupled so they have no interest in being social or friendly because they just need the one person.

What sort of level of health is your mother in Peas? Is she becoming frail?

Corny

@Corny lol you had me with the dermatologist thing :D! nearly with the Rhodes Scholar Im a Sagittarius we are a bit gullible at times ..... Anyways I am adopted both my mums are still alive and kicking :). My adopted mum is older and has high blood pressure etc but other than that goes to the gym and walks. She has her marbles too which is great. My birth mother who lives in NZ is fit and constantly at pea to keep her weight down as her 90 plus mother had a stroke which did her in. Well when you are 90 plus something generally does ....

Your argument re housing for son2 sounds most sound. Im gonna look into it I think. As long as he has the care and isnt isolated that is the main thing. His sister could live nearby and visit too they get along extremely well. His sister is moving out soon and that will hit him hard. Autism and change dont go together well.

He he he .....I am a middle child @Bunniekins playing tricks and gags .

I think that your daughter moving out will change the dynamic of the house a lot, but she is an adult and has to have her freedom. It will take a while for your son to adjust, its difficult and sad that such changes can set him back.

It's really hard not to put on weight with medication, and your Mum means well out of love, but its difficult to keep your weight down with meds but also MI because it zaps your energy if you are depressed. But irregardless if weight comes off or not I think that the MH benefits of exercise make it something we all need to try and do every week with some consistently. Some people are naturally lean and thin and it doesn't matter what they eat, they never gain weight. And then for others achieving weight loss can lead to an Eating Disorder....in hospital weight gain was one of the biggest complaints that patients make about the meds.

Its great that your Mum's are in good shape and good health, and that they are able to be there for you and the grandkids to support.

Corny

@Corny Thanks Corny I have really enjoyed our talk today 🙂 Hope to do it again soon. Love peaxxx

You're a wonderful Mum @Bunniekins juggling such a complex and difficult situation.

@Corny Hey Corny 😄 and thanks but I could be way better but you have to keep on trying dont you :). Have a great day. Love peaxxx:)

@Bunniekins I was descending into the rabbit hole while simultaneously caring for my mother who has schizophrenia, I completely understand how hard it is to be unwell yourself, while also caring for someone very unwell........its not easy Peas, its taken years off my life, but I am happy to go at 80, I don't need to be a centenarian

@Corny Lolz I know what you mean. Son2 through no fault of his own has taken years off mine as well but that is okay who wants to live forever

Hell no! @Bunniekins Far out, not me Peas! I am happy to go at 80, everything changes after 80.

Gosh, I'm actually really worried because my Nana almost cracked a 'hundy and I am short like an elf and elves can really hang on in there! Our little heart doesn't have to pump blood around as far as the giraffes of this world.

Damn.

BUT! there is hope I will go out with a bang Peas.....I get blood clots and strokes and burst aorta's have happened in my bloodline so I am staying positive that on my 80th birthday I just drop with a thump, flat on my face from a pulmonary embolism and my sibs cubs put me in the veggie patch! I am seeing my haematologist in a couple weeks and I'll ask him if he can line this puppy up with fireworks. A stroke or heart attack is a millionaires death Peas!

@Corny Yep I agree entirely. My grandmother died of a heart attack instaneously. A perfect way to go.. No pain just instant death. That is the way to go. I want a sky burial. Look them up and tell me what you think. Either the native american way or the Tibetan way I really dont care but dont want to be in some coffin 🙂