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TABSenior Contributor
snap re jimmies why late morning haha kidding lol @Nell
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TABSenior Contributor
am happy for you @Nell that you are trying stuff fe here.. I try to make light of things. I apologise
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TABSenior Contributor
.. 're'..
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DecadianSenior Contributor
Hi @CrystalCrazyCat
People have written some really good stuff here - and that's great -
When it comes to drinking I am not much help - I was mostly raised by my loving but strict grandmother - and she was so anti-alcohol it was really hard to overcome that and have a social drink - but now I have a fortified wine or something similar
However - some years ago my toxic sibling pulled a nasty trick - lied to my daughter - and as my toxic sibling does this - I don't have much to do with them - but I was so devastated I had more fortified wine than ever before - not enough to make me sick but enough to feel okay and sleep a lot - until it woke up properly and - the toxic sibling episode #113 wore off
But the damage caused by lying from this person has been terrible - and the sorrow caused to other members of the family is still destructive - I don't get it -
All I can say is that those few days could have been a turning point to the dark side of my family history and my other sibling being an alcohlic - which is something that started young and still continues
So I asked my doctor about this - and I learned that getting off alcohol can be harder than getting off other drugs - and I notice that he has some background with D&A rehab
I can really say that anyone could find it easier to live life with something between themselves and the pain the world causes - whatever that is - and I have a friend that can't do anything without taking the edge off before hand - and I understand. The world can be a painful place - and it hurts -
It's really good you have told us - and I am sorry that it took people a while to see you there - I didn't - I wasn't on-line yesterday - but today - yes - I am here - and I hope you have read something helpful
Oh yes - one thing needed to be taken into account is our body chemistry and brain chemistry - some people need this more than others people because they have different chemical needs - that is something I have learned recently from my favourite source - docos on SBS
Decadian
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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TABSenior Contributor
..read the subject title folks
..sheesh ..lol does it ring true? or does it
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DecadianSenior Contributor
Who am I?
Right - I wrote this somewhere else @TAB and thought I had put it here - but I didn't
If we want to know what we are like - including who we are - then we need to take a look at our friends
With anyone saying a word - they will tell us exactly who we are are
I can sometimes lose sight of the question while responding to the person - thanks for the heads up
Decadian
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TABSenior Contributor
@Decadian wrote:Who am I?
Right - I wrote this somewhere else @TAB and thought I had put it here - but I didn't
I can sometimes lose sight of the question
Decadian
?? so you didn't write it? wasn't sure that was what I thought I was talking about.
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