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Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember26 Nov 2019, 1:55 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

For our final online event of the year @Former-Member as well as the LE and Carer communities, will be discussing one of the most common challenges throughout the holiday period!

Expectations

We will be strategising some different approaches to this time of year including realistic expectation setting, maintaining perspective and executing on self-care.
Look forwarding to seeing you all there

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 7:45 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Relaxing sounds lovely @Shaz51 Sounds amazing.

@Former-Member hahaha that card is epic!

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 7:48 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Hey there @Adge I am sorry to hear this, a common tale with separation I hear. I know you're a very insightful, intellient human being. I do hope over time the void those deeper connections have left are filled with new, lovely energy. I know it's a very hard slog until that time - thank you for sharing this. Much appreciated.

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 7:50 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Catching up because you want to, not because you feel obligated to.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:53 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Catching up because you want to, not because you feel obligated to.-- very true @Former-Member , @Former-Member

have that feeling and expectations tht you need to catch up with everyone

going to 3 places in one day is too much

i have tried , and it does not work with husband who has MI

last year we did 2 places , even that was toooo much

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AdgeSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:53 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Thanks @Former-Member That's very encouraging (lovely), you gave me a boost....

Adge

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AdgeSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:58 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

I agree @Shaz51 When I go to NSW to visit my relatives - similar (too many visits) is expected of me, even though I have no car to drive (over there).

Adge

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 8:03 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

hello @frog

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:05 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Welcome @frog!

@Former-Member I think catching up because you want to is massive. I choose now to spend time with people I really value, sometimes that is friends or just hanging with my dog. Sometimes a partner etc etc. I think that is a really good differentiation thank you.

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AdgeSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 8:07 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

The Council & Charity Community Christmas Day lunches here (there are a few) - have over 2000 people attend each of them.

Outdoors in the 35C to 40C heat.

Yes, it is an opportunity to be with people on Christmas day - if you can deal with a crowd that large.

Many people would be totally overwhelmed by a crowd of 2000 people at one of those Community lunches - so they would not be able to attend.

I would not want to go to a Gathering that large.

Adge

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:08 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Ok wonderful humans! I am really appreciating the honesty tonight, I know it can be a really tricky time of year to navigate, but I am really enjoying some of the connectedness in our struggles over the holiday season Feeling less alone etc 🙂

In regards to the notion of pressure and self-expectation...

What are some ways that we can minimise the pressure we put on ourselves during the holiday period?

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